friends copying my wedding!!

Wait, your friend is getting married despite not wanting to and you're more concerned that she's using the same colors as you? I think you need to address the deeper issues with you and your friends and the colors will sort themselves out. also, your wedding is not for over a year. one or both of them (or you) may change colors, theme, etc.

A lot can happen in two years!

And imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, don't be mad, just know you did it first!

This happened to a girl on here earlier this week. The advice most gave was to not give details of the wedding to the girls or feed them false information. Copying is a form a flattery, but I completely get how this can super irritating to you.

My suggestion would be to stop telling them any plans or ideas you have. If they ask you, just say "I haven't thought about that yet" or "I'm not too sure".

I know you have your heart set on your theme, but would you be adverse to changing it? even slightly?

Try not to let them get to you. The reasons they are engaged is their own and all you should focus your thoughts and attention on is your special day and marrying the person who you love.

@kahlcara we have. But she lives in great fear of her dad and what people think. Her own dad said that she was "f@#k" and she made a commitment to her now fiancé, and if she went back on it he would kick her out.... a lot of family drama!! We were originally having our wedding in 2014 but because of all this we moved it hoping to not have our wedding clash and have time to save more money. Little did we know that didn't matter!

@truffle there is a story behind those colors and the carnival theme. so it is very sentimental for me.

Thats fair. I was sure it was a long shot in asking, but its a suggestion none the less.

I FINALLLLLYYYY have a DATE TWINNN!!!

Just like another bride said, A LOT can happen in two years. I mean they could completely change their mind, they could go from red to black, they could cancel the wedding altogether or break up I mean not wishing anything bad on anyone just saying so much can happen it's just not worth worrying about it. In the mean time, don't discuss your plans or vendors with them anymore.

Bc your wedding is before theirs theres nothing you can do, because theyll see your wedding and then get ideas from it, but dont be offended, imitation IS flattery, but i wouldnt discuss any more details at all with them, sounds like u did all the leg work finding vendors and they used the same ones? really? terrible. im so so sorry for you. id suggest scouring unique shops far away, or thrift stores/antique stores to find one of a kind accent pieces they wouldnt find. or etsy.

AND carnival is a great unique theme! ten points! go all the way with it!! noone can top that.

Dont worry my bro and his FW were trying to compete and copycat they got "engaged " a week after us without a ring i might add and she said o you guys copied is but just did.it first 0_0 what?? Then we said May would be our wedding they said April would be theirs -_- so we moved ours to October so we wouldnt be so close because she asked MY sisters to be in it cuz none of her own sisters would well when they found out we changed the date they moved theirs to September so I said o well it is what is well guess what she got pregnant had the baby in august and couldn't afford the wedding and now are talking about separating. ....shit happens all that happened in a year n a half so 2 yrs stuff will happen dont worry

I know it's upsetting, but between the family drama and all that, sounds like you are getting the much better deal with it all. just try to concentrate on that best you can. in the long run the important thing is that you love your wedding and enjoy it.

I think years down the road it's not going to matter so much that they copied you. you know that it was your idea.

I understand where you are coming from! My FH and I got engaged in April & we discussed potential wedding dates with his brother & then gf because they were thinking about getting married & we did not want to ruin any of their plans. We were trying to be nice considering they weren't even engaged! They gave us their blessing for our date of July 4th 2014. They ended up breaking up for a couple of months, then my FH's brother gets back together w/ ex-gf & announces to us on on July 4th of this year (a year before our planned wedding) that they are not only back together, but are getting married 6 weeks before us, putting a lot of pressure on the family. They ended up having a JP ceremony this August & that night we all had a major falling out because the now-wife is crazy. Now, they tell everyone they are having a "church ceremony" on their original date (since when do they go to church?!) which is insane. We have decided to move up our date & of course not worrying about their plans

Forget everyone else! This is your day and will be special no matter what.

I have the same situation going on right now. My so called friend had been dating her bf for almost a year. I had been with my fiancé for 5 years. He proposed on a sat and her be proposed that next thursday. Remind you, she never congratulated me. I did the nice thing and congratulated her, only to find out that not only did she steal the entire color sheme I have: Aqua blue and silver, but she picked the same flowers and is getting married a week after me. I guess the only thing I can be thankful for, is that my wedding is before hers, ask it will look like she is copying me not the other way around. In the end, you find out who your true friends are and who is only out to steal your thunder. Good luck!

Oh man, just make sure yours is the best!!

I mean if I was in that situation I'd make sure mine was the best from the 3!

I'd try to come up with fun unique stuff!

and although they'll probably ask you wedding stuff, just lie to them,

and tell them you haven't looked into it at all.

Oh man, just make sure yours is the best!!

I mean if I was in that situation I'd make sure mine was the best from the 3!

I'd try to come up with fun unique stuff!

and although they'll probably ask you wedding stuff, just lie to them,

and tell them you haven't looked into it at all.

Just give them false information from her on and if your set on carnival maybe you can change the other color. Silver would go beautifully with carnival red.