Friends Baby at wedding

"......be there as well as my 4 year old niece. But that's it for kids.

HELP

1) formal weddings don't automatically imply it's child free.

2) Do YOU want this baby at YOUR wedding?

3) If not, kindly explain to your friend that it's a formal affair that you're hoping to keep child-free outside of close relatives. You can even blame it on the in-laws if need-be as "so-and-so really doesn't want kids at the wedding and she's footing the bill so even though we really love baby jordan, I'm trying to honor her wishes, would it be possible to find other arrangements for the baby so you can still enjoy our wedding with us?"

I would call the guest and politely tell her that you are planning an adults only reception. Maybe say something like "I know it's tough to be away from your baby, but the type of wedding that we're having isn't very child friendly, and I think you'd have a better time if Baby Jordan stayed at home with a a babysitter." That might not be perfect but it's what I would say.

If they're not from the area, it might be nice for you to suggest a babysitter in the area if you know of any trustworthy ones, so that the parents don't have to stress about finding one.

^^What King said. Don't beat around the bush. Tell her no kids (but in a nicer way). I wouldn't pose it as a question though ("would it be possible to find other arrangements for the baby so you can still enjoy our wedding with us?") - cause that implies some room for negotiation.

You need to speak with her and make it clear the invitation was extended to her and her spouse only. Advise her it is an adult only ceremony and you would appreciate her respecting your request.

*"we hope you can find other arrangements for the baby so you can still enjoy our wedding with us."

better, FutureMrsDean

Better, King! lol! )))

"I have no problem with them bringing the baby however my in laws are paying for the wedding and my mother in law has made it clear that she does not want children there."

I'm fairly certain your mother in law wouldn't be paying any extra money for a 7 month old, they don't need their own seat or own plate. If you are fine with it, tell your mother in law that the baby is coming. Explain to her that you want your friends to be there, and the only way is if they bring their child with. If you really don't want the baby there, then do what King and Dean have said.

We had two couples bring their kids uninvited, and without even telling us before hand. I'm going to remind myself when I have kids not to be such an ass.

@Jean. Why can't they leave their baby at home, especially if they live in the same city as the wedding is at? I know many of my friends who have attended weddings, dinner, special events and have left their young babies at home with grandparents, close friends for the evening or even whole day.

OP. I would suggest you take the advice of some of the other ladies on here and call your friend and explain the situation.

Here is the thing if there are even a couple other kids there, they go without their kids after you telling them they can't. Well you might not have happy guests. This us a sticky situation no matter what though.

Everyone's given great advice, but be prepared if they decline the invitation. My best friend has a 6 month old and they don't even leave him with babysitters or even grandparents to watch. Its their first baby so that might be why (so Tiffany's advice would do little for my friend). We're allowing them to bring their baby because I want her to be a part of my special day.

My 20 ur old "ex" step daughter came to fl from Oregon so she had to bring her one year old baby. 7 pm wedding but they were on west coast time so baby was awake. I was afraid of her crying during ceremony or being a bother to the other guests at her table but it was family and it worked out just fine. Dad took baby up to the room when it got late. If this is a friend you really want there I would let it slide esp if she's nursing. If you tell her she can't she prob won't come.

I have this situation as well and allowed a couple of friends who have young children (less than one year old) to bring them to the wedding. When babies are that young its hard for the parents to leave them for an entire evening, especially if they are breastfeeding. We really wanted these couples to attend so we allowed them to bring their kids even though we aren't allowing other children. Its also easier to allow people to bring young infants since they are not actually a "guest" and dont need a meal, seat etc. All of our others friends kids are older and they did not mind leaving them behind for the evening. We really didn't even have to tell anyone they couldn't bring their older children and I don't think anyone would be offended that they couldn't bring their 5 year old son if they see an infant at the wedding as it is a different situation. 7 months old is still pretty young and depending on where they live it might be difficult for them to attend without him. Do they live local to where you are getting married? Like others have said, if you really want them to be there you may have to let them bring their baby, otherwise they may have to decline.

Formal wedding doesn't mean kids free. No one is going to make the association unless you let them know. I would talk to her and explain the situation, I'm sure they can find arrangements for the kids.