Friends as my "Something Blue"

I don't hate this idea but I don't love it either....I think as a friend I would be more honored and less annoyed if you got me a cute blue bracelet or something instead of telling me wear a blue dress (that I may not already own) but I'm not in the bridal party.

Nope. Not a good idea. I'd feel silly, wearing the same colored dress, as 5 other ladies.

So you basically want them to be your bridal party but not feel like a bridesmaid? I am confused why not just ask them and tell them you want them to be part of your day with no pressure on "traditional" bridal party duties. I am not even sure what traditional duties include....

I find it odd. You're having them buy a new dress,m and planning a formal asking, so why not go all the way and have them as BMs but tell them they have zero duties?

This seems...weird. Sorry.

I like it, but then when I think of someone asking me to be in the bridal party, my first thought is, "Ug! So much work!" so this would be right up my alley... of course, you know your friends best.

No. BM's have zero duties to begin with. Asking everyone to dress in a blue dress? No again.

Don't have a BP at all.

I'm not trying to sound mean at all, but there was definitely an episode of "my fair wedding with David tuetera" where a bride had this EXACT same idea... And he shot it down.

Just have a bridal party then

What you are describing is a bridal party. just ask your friends to be your bridesmaids, but make it clear that you have no expectations other than that they buy a blue dress and stand with you on your big day

I would honestly be offended if a friend did what you are suggesting.... "omg yes! i'll be your bridesmaid" "no, youre not a bridesmaid....but i do want you to wear a specific color and possibly walk down the aisle" I would decline such an invitation.

This idea is weird to me

Not using my friends as accessories, I'm including them without them having to be obligated of all the other "bridesmaid" duties most brides do. I'm sure purchasing a simple blue dress wouldn't be that hard, and it'll be a great photo op wit all my good girlfriends, im not one for all the typical bridal traditions.. bottom line is I know my friends so I'm sure they'll love it! Thanks for the opinions ladies!

To be honest I'm confused. The bridal party have no duties other than showing up wearing the dress or a dress in your requested colour. So asking them to wear a blue dress makes them part of the bridal party.

But it appears you're going to do what you want regardless of PP's opinions and advice.

Why not just make them your BP and have them wear the blue dresses of their choice for that. They still don't have to spend very much that way but get to actually be in the BP. To me it's very odd to have a bunch of women in semi-matching dresses if they aren't BMs. It actually reminds me of this one girl on Say Yes To The Dress: Bridesmaids who had so many people she wanted in the BP that she chose BMs and "honorary" BMs. The honorary BMs still had to get dresses but they sat with the guests rather than standing up with the bride. They agreed to it because they loved the bride but many of them were actually very hurt.

You asked our advice, we all unanimously said it was a bad idea, then you say you know your friends and are sure they'll love it. So why ask? You clearly weren't going to listen no matter what was said. Sounds like you were just fishing for us to tell you what a great idea you had.

Wear a specific color dress, pose for photos and walk down the aisle. Sounds like a bridal party to me. Either have a bridal party or don't. The whole non bridesmaids thing will just confuse people. Bridesmaids have no "duties" other than to buy a specific colored dress which is what your asking them to do. Also blue dresses are fine if you like that color but if someone asked me to be their "something blue" I would be offended. I am not a prop for your silly rhyme.

So you really didn't want advice...you just wanted to tell us what you are doing.

Either have a bridal party or not. Don't make your friends buy a dress for your photos.

Oh, that's what you mean. I thought maybe your friends are smurfs! Or blue-haired little old ladies!

;-)

What about buying them blue jewelry or something

OP: "Here's this thing I want to do. Thoughts on the thing?"

Every commenter: "Don't do the thing, because XYZ."

OP: "Cool. I'm going to do the thing anyway."

Do you know what my bridesmaids did? Bought a dress, walked down the aisle, sat in the first pew in the church, and posed for pictures with me. Your friends aren't accessories and this is precisely what you're doing to them. You even say it'll be a "cute photo op." You're looking for a way to use your friends to fulfill the requirements of a stupid poem without giving them the actual honor of recognizing them at the ceremony. I have no idea why you're in such denial about this.