"Friend" with same wedding date...

Keep your head up and get married. A true friend would not do that to you knowingly that she can choose another date. I think she is jealous. I say you have your wedding and enjoy it.

Two things I'm thinking:

1. The sooner date would be better for her because her FH would most likely still be on leave if he's for sure getting back at the end of February. He's not guaranteed a day off because anything can come up after leave.

2. FH is military, I would personally go with the later date because if it's a deployment he's on, it can get pushed back. The worst is having a wedding and a groom in another country.

With that said, I know that sucks and I know I would be upset, but after having gone through 2 deployments with FH and getting ready for the 3rd I would pick the 29th as well if those were my two options because I would want to make sure he's there. I'm assuming he's on deployment and those dates can change so much.

I'd be upset, too. I'm sorry this has happened, but I'm sure everything will work out.

@Michelle

Yea, I understand that.

@Myra - Thanks so much. :-)

@Erika - I understand what you're saying but these are not the excuses she gave me. But I understand.

@Tiki67 - Thanks Hun.

Did she even apologize or ask you about having her wedding on the same date? I would be upset not only because she will be missing my wedding, but that I would be missing hers as well!

I'm sorry @Miss_Tee, but I think you have the right heart about it - keep on keepin' on and focus on the positive. I'm going through similar stress with a "friend"...she asked me to help her with wedding ideas and even asked if she could use some of my ideas from my wedding - I didn't mind because her wedding was after mine....ya until she bumped her wedding two weeks before mine. I'm now going to attend a "preview" of my wedding apparently...

So I count my blessings, rely on my FH and his support and focus on creating MY dream wedding with the man I absolutely adore, and I don't focus on what other people do to try and put a damper on it. It only happens once!

@Mrs. Russell

Nope, she didn't apologize or asked how I felt...

I can definitely relate to you. I have been giving this "friend" some of my ideas as well, thinking she was having her wedding the month after mines in another country only to find out she wants to be married here and on the same date as me and FH... Sorry to hear that.

But yes, all we can do is stay positive and focus on our weddings with our FH's. Thanks Hun.

Wow that sucks. I don't think it was intentional but it is still very rude. On a positive note she is not in your bridal party and your 2 mutual friends are already going to yours. As long as she keeps her promise to with your bridal shower than I would just let it be.

If it were a REALLY close friend mine, I just couldn't. I really couldn't in my heart not be a part of friend's wedding to have mine on the same day. It's just not okay. She knew your date and knew that you wanted her to be a part of it.

Let her go. You can't make people change anything but you can protect your wedding that you've been planning and go a different direction from her.

That is really sucky! I would never do that to a friend!

Ahh, my fiancee also has a "friend" who got engaged much later than us and is now having his wedding at the same venue (room and all) just 1 week before ours.

Maybe I'm being pessimistic..but I find it hard to believe your friend did not do this intentionally. I'm sorry you're going through this. I mean...it should be YOUR day...and your day only! (yes this may sound selfish, but it's your one special day!). Like others have said...I guess there's nothing you can do about it, as she is entitled to have hers whenever she wants. I don't blame you for being upset.