Friend Upset Because Not Bridesmaid

That's a very odd reaction. Some people think that being in a bridal party is some kind of rite of passage. She may even want some attention on herself. I would give it time to cool off. You are able to pick whoever you want as your bridesmaids but it is very early to be choosing people at this point. You're a year and a half away, no need to have stress over that aspect yet.

Honestly, she needs to suck it up. It's not her wedding so she shouldn't tell you what to do. You do what YOU want.

She need's to get over it. My FSIL went through the same thing. Her friend asked her out to lunch to basically grill her about no being a BM and caused a huge scene in the restaurant they were at. Needless to say they aren't friends anymore.

It's so early to be picking the wedding party but nonetheless...

There will always be people who are upset they aren't in the wedding party, or their kids aren't invited or the wedding is on their birthday or they think your colors/dj/menu or some other detail sucks.

Don't explain or apologize. "No, that wasn't our plan." Carry on. If they are a real friend, they will get their mudandi out of a bunch.

I just don't even know how to respond to a reaction like that. My mom said just say that! Lol.

It's her problem to work through and get over.

She has to get over it. I had a friend who is my MOH's best friend (me and her are friends but we aren't as close as her and my MOH) I guess she expected to be a BM. Well when I posted a picture of the hangers I got the BMs with their names on them she remarked to my MOH "oh I guess I'm not at BM." you keeping it small should be reason enough.

What is with all these people who automatically expects to be in the bridal party and then freak out when they find out they're not?

She needs to grow up and realize this is your wedding not hers so you get to decide how many BMs and who to ask.

She sounds like a peach.. She sounds like she would cause drama. Leave it be.

Right? I have never heard of such a thing. I would NEVER assume I was a bridal party member ever. Because it's not a big deal at all. I don't understand why it's such a status thing for people. Plus she married so she should understand the stress for weddings are already enough... But she did have 9 bridesmaids....

Can totally relate. I'm having small bridal party as well, like yours

I think her reaction demonstrated exactly why she shouldn't be a bridesmaid. Your wedding if about you, not her or the bridesmaids and she doesn't seem to understand that.

Don't react to her antics at all from this point. You answered her question, be happy with your decision. Just thank the bridal gods that you don't have to deal with finding her a dress and bouquet she likes...

That's true @Beth. That would have been awful haha.

My aunt threatened not to come to the wedding because I didn't ask her to be a bridesmaid.

I said, "Okay, we'll miss you." LOL. She got over it.

Don't let anyone strong arm you into getting their way. It's not about her.

I have a couple of guy friends who are upset they aren't groomsmen. Its irritating honestly

If she's a true friend she would be understanding. Sounds like you made the right decision by not having her!

I'm worried this same comment is coming my way very soon...

@mysticbride good point!

I went through something similar. Its a friend i was close with in high school and college but havent seen and barely talked to in 3ish years. She went so far as to say something like "whatever, I probably wont even be MOH in my own sisters wedding i just have to get used to it"

i felt bad for about....5 minutes. your friend will get over it, its your wedding and like someone else said if shes a true friend she wont make it about her