Friend told unofficially told me I’d be a bridesmaid, but then never asked - feeling hurt.

I feel mixed emotions of feeling hurt and trying to be logical because it’s not my day, but we can’t help how’s we feel right?

So a friend of mine (whose fiancé is my husbands childhood best friend) that I’ve been friends with for 9 years, got engaged after many years of being together. He waited a long time, people teased them about it and I never brought it up because I knew how much it bothered her. During the last 9 years, she’s been in my wedding ( not looking for reciprocation of course), spent many summers at my family lake house and has confided in me issues with her now fiancé cheating on her with a married woman, not telling a soul but me. I helped her through it, listed to her vent because that’s what friends do, have her advice, supported her and felt she obviously considered me close friend having told me such personal, horrible news. Fast forward a few years, they are now engaged and I am thrilled as she chose to forgive him and move forward.

About 10 months ago before she got engaged we got on the topic of her wedding once he finally popped question. She talked about how her brother would be her man of honor and I joked asking if she had the rest of her bridal party planned, since she actually drunkenly asked my mom if she could have her engagement party at my moms lake house (4 hrs away from everyone). She started naming people, and while I didn’t expect her to name me (but hoped she would) she then said me! After she said my name, I smiled and my heart was happy, I was overjoyed inside! But I soon said, awww and said I hope she didn’t feel like she had to say me because the topic came up ( and I meant it in a sweet, understanding way, I didn’t want her to feel pressure, and could see how she could feel put on the spot) she said no, of course I do, unless you wouldn’t want to? I replied quickly saying I would love to and it be an honor!

shes now engaged and I have moved 3 hours away, but I am always in town since my husbands family isn’t ther and so I visited her and gave her a big hug and an a little gift to celebrate her engagement! She already set a date, and seems to have picked her bridesmaids and so I got the hint that I am no longer one of them. Is that’s how it goes? Do I just take the hint and move on? I know it’s not about me, and I wouldn’t be and hurt if she didnt initially tell me I would be in her wedding. Am I being silly? Lol.