friend thinks having a big vow renewal is tacky

I don't think that couples who have big vow renewals are usually couples who got to have that "you only get one shot" wedding. this IS their one shot. I would LOVE to do a vow renewal for my 10 year anniversary...but I would probably just do it under an arch our house or backyard at a regular party. no big dress or anything like that. but that is because I AM GETTING MY DAY in the first place.

I support you Mina! not only should your friend keep her mouth shut, but she should be happy for you because you said you were a bridesmaid in her wedding...she got her day. i have a friend like this...who has a really hard time being happy for me. everything seems to be a competition. if she's doing it, it's a good idea. if she's not, its the worst idea ever and why would i do it. maybe that is what is going on with this friend. she is jealous that you get the spotlight

Even the etiquette police who hate "pretty princess days" can't hate on you for what you're doing. You have made it 10 years and want to throw a party to celebrate that with your friends and family. Sounds amazing to me! Wear what you want, do what you want, celebrate your marriage. Good luck with your planning!

I do agree though everyone deserves a day to celebrate spending the rest of your life with the person you love no matter how long you've been married. If you haven't had that then I don't think making a celebration for that is tacky.

Screw what anyone else thinks, If they think its tacky they can go fly a kite. Uninvite them asap. And congrats for surviving and NOT getting divorced. You celebrate!!

I'm going forward with my big vow renewal ceremony, just how I want it.

I personally don't think vow renewals are tacky. If it was me I wouldn't have a huge celebration, but I do already plan on renewing our vows for our 10th anniversary somewhere out of the country (DW in a way). But it would only be our closes family and friends. And I would only want a gorgeous vow renewal ceremony and a nice dinner afterwards.

But, were planning on having our dream wedding the first time around, so I envision something different when it comes to planning vow renewals

I say do whatever you want and who cares what anyone says

You go mina :-) and Congratulations I am going on 15yrs .

I think the whole 'you only get one wedding' thing is silly. I think even if you had a big one the first time, do it up any way you want if you want to do it again.

I like the idea of doing things differently the second time around just because I think that would be more fun, but I don't think you have to tone it down if you don't want to.

seriously, what is really going to happen if you do it 'wrong' in anyone's eyes? will someone stand up and say "I object to this ceremony on the grounds that it's improper" ?

I am having a vow renewal on October 25,2014!!!!! It is my 10yr anniversary and I am so excited about it. I don't care what anyone has to say about it my husband and I have been through so many ups and downs aw have decided to reaffirm our lives to each other with another wedding... I don't care what anybody thinks about it. If you don't like it don't come!!!!

I stupidly always worry about what people think and i shouldnt...if they dont like it then dont come, but you'll miss out on a great party, right? im the one paying, not asking for gifts or anything from my guests, except show up, eat, drink, and watch us confess our love to eachother again. whats wrong w that?

people get married all the time, and 1/2 dont work out, we know were gonna be married for atleast 10 years (lol cause we have been) why not celebrate. id be happy spending some money on a big party, dress, and great food for a marriage that will last. id be ticked if i spent a ton of money for a wedding that barely lasted a year...plus so would the guests, would you rather buy a china set for a marriage that doesnt last, or enjoy a great vow renewal for a marriage thats been kept alive for years? enjoy your day, im gonna enjoy mine!

My husband & I are planning to renew our vows for our 25th wedding anniversary.Yes i'm wearing a white wedding dress and walking down the aisle to my husband. We were married at the JOP in 1992 with just my mother and sisters. Life is too short for me to care what other people think, this day is about him & I.