Friend is Officiating - What will they wear?

When my parents got married the pastor they had just wore a regular suit it was a charcoal grey, he also wore a button up shirt and a nice tie. I think what ever you choose to have your friend wear will look and be fine. Unless there is some secret rule according to the religion that your friend is ordained in.

I think it's fine to ask him if he could wear a neutral suit. Beyond that I wouldn't ask him to wear or avoid certain colors or styles though. If it's not something you would ask of a Pastor or another officiant, I probably wouldn't ask it of your friend, if that makes sense.

That's fun! In CO anybody can officiate a wedding so I've been to several weddings where friends officiate. Those are some of the best ceremonies I remember.

My friend is marrying us also.

I told him to wear a suit thats not too crazy and he can wear whatever color shirt and tie with it.

Plus alllllll of his piercings lol. but thats me =]

Haha... he'd be more than welcome to show any of his tats and piercings (well, when wearing a suit, of course) that he'd like... if he had any.

I was more thinking that with the groom/groomsmen in pseudo-victorian styled morning suits, there might be some styles of suits that might just not go with the whole "theme" of the wedding. Or that I could ask him to wear a certain color of suit to kind of set him apart and honor him as the officiant, rather than just blend in with the rest of the guests in suits. Know what I mean?

I can hear what you're saying. He's not really part of the WP though and if the officiant wasn't your friend they would probably show up in vestments or a pretty modern, neutral outfit. I guess I wouldn't ask anything more of him just b/c he happens to be your friend, KWIM? That's just me.

You could maybe casually mention what the guys are wearing and just see if he wants to play along but otherwise I wouldn't worry about it and I don't think it will look weird at all if he's not dressed in the same theme.

I think we're just going to ask him to dress nicely. Our groomsmen aren't wearing suits or tuxes, so to me it doesn't makes sense to have our friend more dressed up than them.

@Kris - Very true, I hear your point. If he wasn't officiating though, he'd be in the WP (or at least "in the running"..FI had like 7-8 guys he wanted to stand with him... and all of them were reasonable, I knew who they were and why... but the list had to get narrowed down and 4 was the minimum he could do, and only then if John (our friend) would still be "in the party" by officiating).

I figure it will just come down to sitting down with everyone and describing the look and feel we're going for, and hope that it just works out in the end. Its not worth stressing over.

Have you asked him what he is planning to wear? The person who is officiating mine gave me three choices. If you ask him, and his answer is horrifying, then you can say something like "I was envisioning a dark suit"

Ok so we're doing it a little differently.... My cousin is doing our ceremony and I told him to wear whatever he wanted. And let me tell you I'm really nervous about this one cuz I don't have a freaking clue what's going to happen here. He's the craziest one out of all 6 of us and I'm encouraging everyone to wear costumes so...... who knows. Could be something spooky, could be something lame, something funny - I just don't know what I'm up against here.

I think a dark suit would be nice.

My pastor will usually wear a suit that goes along with the color scheme for the wedding that he is doing.