Friend Asking for Plus One

Thanks so much Kari!

Yes I gave everyone who had a SO a plus-one or even dating someone. My friend just wants to bring her girlfriend so she would know someone other than me. I have no connection to her friend.

Between the Covid not being in control, us with elderly parents and trying to keep the wedding small, it's been a difficult time trying to have a safe wedding so thank you for your thoughts! Much appreciated

I've gone to plenty of weddings solo, including weddings where I only knew one half of the couple getting married and no one else. I've always had fun! I guess I can understand not wanting to not know anyone at a wedding but its really not that big a deal if the couple are good hosts.

On your part, try to seat your friend at a table with people who have similar interests or careers, or some other commonalities. When I went solo to weddings my friends always greeted me as soon as they could and made an effort to introduce me to some other guests, or sometimes they'd check in with me before the wedding and give me some social pointers (like we put you at a table with all of our hiking friends, and so-and-so traveled to the same exotic country as you so you might have visited some of the same places). In some cases their parents or other people would "find me" and make sure I felt included. So even though I'd know no one upon arrival, by the time we were 10 minutes into cocktail hour I'd be having conversations with people and enjoying myself.

At our wedding, I invited some of my "solo" friends to do some pre-wedding stuff with me so they could meet some other people before the wedding. They had a great time!

Thanks Kari for your thoughts. We had our wedding last weekend and my friend was fine and made new friends and contacts. Your ideas are great. I was just concerned and glad it all worked out. I've been to weddings on my own and totally understand too. I just wanted to see what the concensus was before I gave her my answer.

Thanks Michelle. Definitely not a significant other. Just a friend. And if it were otherwise, I wouldn't have any hesitation in including her SO.

Thanks Samantha. She never had a plus one because we wanted to keep the guest count low so we could spread the tables out and try to be as safe as possible during this Covid season

Thanks Allie! Yes just a platonic friend. I would never not include a SO to any function especially a wedding. It doesn't matter to me whether it is a female or a male. In fact we did have one couple who are both men but we knew they were a couple but in this case, she wasn't dating anyone, man or woman.