Friday or saturday wedding?!

I dont know what your budget is, but IMO 1K is not enough savings to give up a Saturday. Saturday is much more convenient for guests (and probably yourself as you would get to have one more PTO day to use on your honeymoon). Friday weddings can be tough on a bridal party too (they usually have to take off Thursday and Friday). I know a few people that had Friday weddings (and they were still fun!) and a good number of people only showed for the reception, not the ceremony because they were working Friday and couldn't take off (not sure how big of a deal that is with you). They also apparently had a lot more "no-shows" than normal.

That being said, I think if there was a significant savings (2-3K less), I would go with Friday. You just have to balance out if 1K is a big enough deal (or seeing if you can cut other places) to you to make it a day earlier.

Saturday!!!!!! People may not tell you they are annoyed that your wedding is on a Friday but some of them are....in addition to buying you a present, paying to travel to the wedding, spending money on other meals and hotel I don't think it's fair to ask them to take off extra time from work!

I'm going to a Friday wedding next year and well it's not the end of the world and im still going, I am very annoyed that I have to take time off work!

I've been to a few Friday weddings, and while I didn't say anything to the couple (obviously, because that's rude) it was honestly a pain in the ass. People were late due to traffic and walking in during the ceremony, left early because they were tired from the work week, etc.

I had this issue with my venue because Fridays and Sundays are the same price was Saturdays are like $1000 more so I ended up going with a Sunday but if you can afford it, I say Saturday.

Saturdays have been the most desired day of the week weddings for decades, and it's the reason that every Saturday evening wedding costs more - and it's the reason couples are wiling to pay more for a Saturday evening wedding. I'd spend the extra thousand and have a Saturday wedding...unless you can't. If that's the case, go for Friday or Sunday.

ETA: Don't put this question to your guests. Everyone knows that a Friday wedding is cheaper than a Saturday wedding, and no polite person is going to tell you to spend more for their convenience. Decide for yourself what which is doable, and then do it. My guess is you'll have more declines with a Friday wedding, so if that matters to you, then you have your answer.

Thank you everyone for your input, Sos you make a great point about traffic, I didn't even think about that! ugh such a tough choice lol. It is labor day weekend so we would honestly do it sunday but our venue doesn't have that option.

We're having our wedding on a holiday weekend as well so even if you hold it on a Saturday, people will still have a full two days to rest. We also won't have it on a Friday because people would have to go through rush hour traffic to get there.

We are also having out of town guests (who can only fly in here) and Saturday requires less days for them to take off when flying in on a holiday weekend. 1k wouldn't be enough for me to change it to a Friday considering the traffic and troubles that my guests would have to go through just so I could save a buck.

Good point, Malei. I attended one Friday evening wedding with every bell and whistle. Unfortunately, even planning for rush hour traffic didn't work. We missed the processional and a quarter of the ceremony. And I really hate sitting in traffic.

I thought about having a Friday wedding but I was worried about my bridal party having to take Thursday off work for rehearsal and Friday for the wedding. Also, since it's a DW for everyone except FH and I they would need another day for travel. As a guest I wouldn't mind a Friday wedding though!

If a lot of people are traveling, go with Saturday. It's more convenient for guests. I think $1K is worth it for that.

Edit: Also if I was in the wedding party, I would be super annoyed if there was also a rehearsal dinner Thursday night because that's another day I would have to take off work.

Sorry edit 2: if I was in wedding party, it's probably a close friend so I would still try to ask off work on Thursday but my job truthfully is super strict with asking off. I normally can only request leave from 1600 Friday through 0700 Monday. They typically wouldn't even approve my leave if I asked off on Thursday.

We are doing a Thursday night wedding, and our only declines are family from out of the county or across the country. No ones seemed to care. I have a friend who has a wedding each day of the week, Monday - Saturday this year. I'm sure if they are important to you, they will figure it out.

One thing that I disagree with is the idea that if someone really wants to be there they will find a way. Sometimes it is just not possible. Everyone should have their wedding when and where they want, but be prepared to accept declines graciously.

How far out of town and how many guests? W're having a Tuesday ceremony since EVERYONE will have to travel by plane. If you've got a small group ask around and see if there's a consensus. I'd think it would be a great excuse to take a Friday off and saves you a bit in the meantime.

Still working on the guest list but so far there is about 17 people so not a ton of people but of course I want to give everyone as best of chance as possible to make it there!

Saturday all the way- asking guests to take a day off work is a big ask for some people.

Personally, I'd cut my guest list before I considered a Friday wedding, or consider the off-season savings.

As a guest, I love Friday weddings! Then you have the whole weekend to recover and chill. But it does definitely depend on your crowd and whether you think the out of town era would be able to take off work.

We're doing a Friday, but it's a 3 day weekend. Most family friends are retired so it's easy for them to travel. Our friends are mostly local, and we all have off on Friday. It was more affordable to do Friday, but it also just worked out with the convenience factor, too.

Saturday 100% if most of your guests have Mon-Fri jobs. It's so much easier. Plus if they are going to miss work Monday for the holiday they might be stressed having two short weeks in a row. My boss would approve the time off for me (and I would attend), but I would still have to get my whole job done in 4 days instead of 5 two weeks in a row, which makes for longer/more stressful days when I am at work.

Having a school night wedding for with a lot of OOT guest for budgetary reasons is like telling them, "Here, you sacrifice more for my wedding so I can sacrifice less." Just because guests are polite and not griping to the hosts doesn't mean they aren't griping to each other.

@Bridget - Am I reading your date correctly? It's Labor Day weekend?

Please don't take this as harshly as it might sound - but you're asking folks to give up part of their last holiday weekend of the summer. That's a LOT. Especially with school starting. And vacations. And all the other things going on that last weekend of summer. If you're having a kid-free wedding, everyone will need to arrange for kid-care. If it's a kid-friendly wedding, then folks may not want to pull their kids from school to travel, or get to the venue in time. Just a few thoughts.

When you are asking friends/family Friday v. Saturday, are you also asking them about Labor Day weekend? Since you are 2 years out, is there any chance you can re-think your date to a week prior or a week later?