Formal name or nickname?

I have not and will not put my legal first name on anything. I've used the Abbey on everything as no one would know who the wedding was for if I used my legal name (I also hate it and have NEVER used it aside from signing legal docs). If your FH wants to use his nickname, let him, its likely how most people know him anyway.

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I asked my dad if he wanted to me use his full first name 'Jeremy' or use his nickname 'Jerry' on our invitations (he's paying for the wedding it will be on the actual invitation). I told him I figured I would use his full name since it's a formal invite. He then said "no one even knows my name is Jeremy, they won't know who you're talking about."

I'm pretty sure my guests would have enough since to figure it out... lol. But I'm going to go ahead and put Jerry since that what he wants. In the grand scheme of things it really doesn't matter.

My DH absolutely hates his name, Anthony Jr. and most people don't even know that's his name. He's gone by Aj since birth and that's what we used for everything. Our wedding was not formal at all though.

I would ask him what he's more comfortable with. My FH is named Christopher but goes by Chris. The only person who calls his Christopher is his mom. I was surprised but it turns out he had an opinion on it - he wanted everything wedding-related to say his formal name. I think formal is more traditional but either way would seek his input.

We did first and middle name on the invites, so I used full name...Andrew, not Andy

I would use the full name on invitations and nickname for everything else.

I think it depends how formal of a wedding you want. My fiancé's name is Kenneth but he only goes by Kenny and that's what he wanted on the invitations.

I go by Tricia but legally it's Patricia. I am using Tricia on everything because outside of family, nobody would know who it was. It's a choice.

Depends on the style of your wedding. If you're doing a backyard BBQ I'd say you'd be fine with Danny. If you're having something more formal I would go with Daniel.

My name is Victoria and I go by tori but we are using victoria for everything. It was more formal and it's and on an occasion like your wedding it should be formal. Maybe in the opening statements they would say Danny but when it comes down to the "do you take Daniel to be your husband" I think it should be your full name.

My FH truly only goes by his nickname, so that's what we used on everything. Formality doesn't trump all; it's his wedding too

Depends. For example, my full name is Cassandra and I HATE it and have never gone by it in my life. I am putting Cassie on the invites. FH hates the name Nathaniel, so we are putting Nate on the invites. You just have to figure out if its more important to be formal or to go by a certain name. Most people probably don't hate their full names as much as we do, though.

Problem- I rarely use my full name and his family calls him by the short name for James. Thinking of nicknames on everything BUT invitations.