Formal name or nickname?

That's what I did. My FH always goes by Mike and preferred that for everything. So the only thing I put Michael on was our invitations. Everything else says Mike.

We will be using Raymond and not Ray ... because it seems more formal

That is what I am doing. My FH goes by an abbreviation of his middle name (Joey). The invites will say William Joseph, but everything else will say Joey.

Typically you use the formal name but if you use a nickname, who cares.

We used our real names. However, in our ceremony, the officiant is using the names we call each other.

For example, he's Matthew and I'm Samantha. We have Matt and Bo for our ceremony.

Bo, thank you for the added comment about ceremony! Didn't even think about that.

Everyone else: thank you! We are doing a less formal wedding anyway, so definitely think I could get away with the additional cards having Danny on them, and the invitation with Daniel.

I'm Caitlin but go by Caitie. I think there are actually people in FW's family that would be like, "Caitlin? What, who's Caitlin?" So we put Caitie on save the dates, the website, basically everything. But I'm putting Caitlin on the invitiation. Mostly to throw my poor mother a bone. "But Caitlin I loooove your name. i didn't name ya Caitie! I named ya Caitlin!"

My FH wanted to just go by his short name, so that's what we did for everything.

I think you do what you want. I have a lot of couples that use their full names for the vow part, but nicknames every place else.

Thus far, I've used my nickname on everything. I don't think anyone on FH's side knows my real name and I don't really use that name at all anymore, so I'm struggling with what to do on the invitations.

FH will be Matt on STDs and website but Matthew on invitations.

I used our nicknames that everyone knows us by. Seems like a shame to do it just for formality, if everyone who receives it will be like, "Oh I didn't realize her real name was _________." Utlimately, I think it will be other things in your invite that determine the formality.

Use the name you guys prefer. Its just a piece of paper. No one is going to get the invitation and care either way.

We used my FH's nickname on STD and full name on invites. I will probably use his nickname in the vows since it would feel a bit forced for me to call him by a name he never uses.

I think this just a personal preference decision. My H's first and middle name is David Thomas, but he goes by Tommy. Other than close family, no one even knows his first name is David. We used Tommy on everything. It would have been weird for something to say David, because it doesn't even seem like his name.

Andy Lastname on STDs, Andrew Middlename Lastname on invites.

If you prefer the nickname, do it. Unless its something like 'tater salad' I don't see it being an issue. If you are have a very formal reception I'd probably consider using full names in that situation.

@JRae- That was my grandfathers name! Great name!

We used Nicholas on the invitation instead of Nick. We didn't use our names on the response cards.

I would put what he is use to

I think it's up to the two of you. If you're having a more formal wedding, I would use the full name. DH goes by Ben and that's what we used for STDs but for the invitations and throughout the ceremony we used Benjamin. If you're having a more casual event, I don't think there's anything wrong with using his nickname, because it's a derivative of his actual name. It would be different if his nickname were something unrelated to his name.