I'm feeling very torn! Part of me is LOVING the planning (I love checking boxes) but the other part of me is ugly crying as the expenses rack up, and I don't even have expensive taste!! 😣 Also overwhelmed with trying to please everyone 😅
YES Celeste, being a 👰 is absolute hell, everything falls on our shoulders, so many decisions! Do you have a wedding planner, they are useful guides! First thing is to figure out your number of guests, find your venue and photographer, as they can be booked up 2 years in advance sometimes, determine what your budget is, so you know how much you can alot for food and beverage, venue if separate from the F+B, photographer or videographer, your dress, etc! I'm still a year away, and I stress everyday, I bought my dress 5 months ago, selfishly, it was my biggest concern, to find my dream dress first, I recommend looking online at the different styles before hitting the boutiques, it helped me figure out which styles I liked or disliked before tying dresses on, and don't bring to many people with you, to many opinions! you might feel pressured to pick a dress you don't really love ( like from your mom ) you'll know in your ❤️ when you find it, mine is from Stella York, style 6979, if you care to see it, seriously, I loved dress shopping, it is FUN! don't get to stressed, everything will fall into place!
I cried while we toured venues. $10K-$15K for just the site fee????? 🤯😭 We had to get creative. We ended up doing a tiny DW and a local reception later. For the DW, we chose a weekday night, off-season. We chose non-floral centerpieces at both events. Many other money-saving ideas. Our events were by no means cheap, but affordable for us. Whew. And totally worth it. 😁 Hang in there! You can do it.
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This wouldn't work for everyone, but I wanted a brunch wedding, so I was limited by caterers more than venues. So I started looking for affordable breakfast/brunch caterers and then looked at venues they were affiliated with. That helped me a lot in my venue search.
Yes. It was kinda fun at first, but when the reality of bookings and crazy prices came into things, it changed. I am leaning towards an elopement now.
I don't want all the stuff. I just want our marriage.
Omg I think this all the time, and I feel so guilty about judging brides who didn’t seem thrilled about planning the wedding because I thought it was going to be this magical time, but in all reality, I want to rip my hair out!!!
Girl, I feel the exact same way. I feel like I can't shut the wedding part of my brain off and I'm pretty sure I'm on everyone's last nerve lol. I would just much rather be done everything by the summer except for the seating chart and just paying things off. I don't want to stress this summer. I want to be able to enjoy my bridal shower and my bachelorette and the wedding itself but I feel like I'm going crazy!
Awww, I am sorry you are overwhelmed and stressed. We had so much fun planning our wedding. We also kept things very casual and simple so I am sure that helped keep us sane. I hope you are ultimately able to enjoy some parts of planning your big day.
I went through the same thing in the beginning. When you're on a tight budget, it makes things hard, especially if you'd like the help of a wedding planner but can't afford one. In my opinion, it GETS BETTER! I hate hearing how people are having horrible time's planning their wedding. While I totally get the sticker shock, you just have to keep searching. I was getting let down at first thinking I wouldn't be able to afford anything at all. Thankfully, our parents are pitching in, but we're still keeping EVERYTHING under $6k (well, not including my dress, which I paid for myself.) Look into cheaper options like banquet halls, etc. Don't choose a venue with in-house catering, that gets crazy expensive. Also, try to find a venue that allows you to BYO alcohol. Take a break if you need to. Once you find a venue that fits the bill, I promise it'll get easier!