For everyone Diy'ing, who helps during the wedding?

I would hire a day of coordinator to handle all of those things. If you want your guests to enjoy the day, putting them to work before the ceremony is likely not going to help with that. They care about you, so they'll want to make it perfect, so you'll just be putting a lot of stress and responsibility on them before the wedding starts.

I have a day of wedding corrdinator

We get our venue at 9am the day before so I am having the wedding party and a few close family members help set up the day before.

Depends on when you can check into your venue and they allow you to set up. Ours doesn't allow us in early as they could have another event that same weekend, so we have a day of coordinator (actually our venue provides us with one) and they'll do set up for us. I just have to tell them exactly what i want.

Myself, my parents, older sister (MOH), and younger brother are setting up. I will probably invite my childhood best friend and the Best Man to help as well, if they want. My mother has helped with a lot of the planning so far and her day job is as a construction project manager. She is planning on being our day-of coordinator (I know most people will say that is a bad idea but I don't think I could talk her out of it, even if I tried). We have access to the venue from 10am-11pm the day before the ceremony so we are planning on setting up then. Our rehearsal dinner will be that evening and our ceremony will be at 2pm the following day.

Ahh, thanks everyone! I forgot about day-of coordinators. That makes sense. Guess it's also dependent on venue and the venue's availability for setup. 🤗

I agree that it would be best to hire a DOC to take care of this -- especially if it involves filling (and then later getting rid of) colored water. Daughter was a BM in a wedding where she was asked to "help" with set up and take down.... She and the other BMs were a sweaty mess by the time they finished (it was just putting the centerpieces together and then placing them and all the other decor -- so not heavy labor, but it involved a fair amount of running around). At the end of the night they had to empty all the centerpiece vases before they could pack everything up and daughter ended up so splattered with water that her shoes were ruined....

I agree that it would be best to hire a day of coordinator to help with all of these tasks! That's what they are there to do, and then your guests can enjoy the day without you having to put them to work

I was freaked out about this too, since our venue does little besides set up the tables and chairs - they kind of leave everything else up to us. We got a day of coordinator to spearhead the set up and to keep everything moving. I really want to at least help set up the first few hours before I go and get ready. I'm also just going to make my whole family help along with the best man and his gf - FH's friends if any are available, for a couple hours. I figure the more hands we have the sooner set up will get done. I'm not really embarrassed to ask for their help though.

Some of ours aunts and my moms good friends who will be there early the day of are going to help set up decorations since I will have zero time to in the am and there is a wedding the night before at our venue so we can’t go then. I would def see if you have some close family or friends who could help with the decorating the day of

Iim in the same boat. ’m asking a friend to help and offered to pay him. I also will have two family members help in the morning then they will leave at 12pm to get ready.