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Mayene
Dedicated March 2023

For everyone Diy'ing, who helps during the wedding?

Mayene, on July 29, 2021 at 8:46 PM Posted in Do It Yourself 1 11

Hi all,

I've been doing a lot of DIY ahead of time (getting married in March 2023), and as we start to browse venues they talk about florists will help with decorations or venue staff will only help with decor they provide.

If I'm providing my own things like centerpiece arrangements, name cards, kissing bells for the guests at the table, cardbox, and if I provided my own floral arrangements, who can I ask to help with setting up before the wedding?

We have a few close friends that will be around as ushers, or would it be appropriate to ask wedding party (like groomsmen) if they are finished getting ready early? Would it be interesting to have pictures of them setting up? (Our centerpiece arrangements would involve setting up glass "potion" bottles with red and blue liquid in them.)

I want our guests (wedding party, VIP, family included) to enjoy the day as much as possible without having to run around, but I'm also wondering if some people have had venues open to helping with custom decor as long as the how-to instructions are provided? I love DIY and setting up, but I know I would be busy getting ready.

11 Comments

Latest activity by Ruby, on August 16, 2021 at 12:56 AM
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    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I would hire a day of coordinator to handle all of those things. If you want your guests to enjoy the day, putting them to work before the ceremony is likely not going to help with that. They care about you, so they'll want to make it perfect, so you'll just be putting a lot of stress and responsibility on them before the wedding starts.
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  • CountryBride
    VIP April 2022
    CountryBride ·
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    I have a day of wedding corrdinator

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  • Nichole
    Expert September 2022
    Nichole ·
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    We get our venue at 9am the day before so I am having the wedding party and a few close family members help set up the day before.
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  • Ashlee
    Rockstar September 2022
    Ashlee ·
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    Depends on when you can check into your venue and they allow you to set up. Ours doesn't allow us in early as they could have another event that same weekend, so we have a day of coordinator (actually our venue provides us with one) and they'll do set up for us. I just have to tell them exactly what i want.

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  • Grace
    Super February 2022
    Grace ·
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    Myself, my parents, older sister (MOH), and younger brother are setting up. I will probably invite my childhood best friend and the Best Man to help as well, if they want. My mother has helped with a lot of the planning so far and her day job is as a construction project manager. She is planning on being our day-of coordinator (I know most people will say that is a bad idea but I don't think I could talk her out of it, even if I tried). We have access to the venue from 10am-11pm the day before the ceremony so we are planning on setting up then. Our rehearsal dinner will be that evening and our ceremony will be at 2pm the following day.
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  • Mayene
    Dedicated March 2023
    Mayene ·
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    Ahh, thanks everyone! I forgot about day-of coordinators. That makes sense. Guess it's also dependent on venue and the venue's availability for setup. 🤗
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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
    MOB So Cal ·
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    I agree that it would be best to hire a DOC to take care of this -- especially if it involves filling (and then later getting rid of) colored water. Daughter was a BM in a wedding where she was asked to "help" with set up and take down.... She and the other BMs were a sweaty mess by the time they finished (it was just putting the centerpieces together and then placing them and all the other decor -- so not heavy labor, but it involved a fair amount of running around). At the end of the night they had to empty all the centerpiece vases before they could pack everything up and daughter ended up so splattered with water that her shoes were ruined....

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  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    I agree that it would be best to hire a day of coordinator to help with all of these tasks! That's what they are there to do, and then your guests can enjoy the day without you having to put them to work

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  • Maddie
    Expert February 2022
    Maddie ·
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    I was freaked out about this too, since our venue does little besides set up the tables and chairs - they kind of leave everything else up to us. We got a day of coordinator to spearhead the set up and to keep everything moving. I really want to at least help set up the first few hours before I go and get ready. I'm also just going to make my whole family help along with the best man and his gf - FH's friends if any are available, for a couple hours. I figure the more hands we have the sooner set up will get done. I'm not really embarrassed to ask for their help though.

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  • Th
    Dedicated September 2021
    Th ·
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    Some of ours aunts and my moms good friends who will be there early the day of are going to help set up decorations since I will have zero time to in the am and there is a wedding the night before at our venue so we can’t go then. I would def see if you have some close family or friends who could help with the decorating the day of
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    Dedicated October 2021
    Ruby ·
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    Iim in the same boat. ’m asking a friend to help and offered to pay him. I also will have two family members help in the morning then they will leave at 12pm to get ready.
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