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FMIL wants me to hold off wedding ANOTHER year.

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Nicolette, on June 17, 2015 at 9:36 AM

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Okay, so long story short. My fiancée and I have been engaged since June of 2014 and we planned to get married this October but due to financial situations and schooling and healing we decides to wait until October 2016. His mother says wait another year and I'll help you pay it more but I don't want to wait until October 2017! That's ridiculously far away. My fiancé is a nursing student who will graduate in June of 2016 and I work full time and will be returning to a nursing program, hopefully, in January 2017. So those 6 months we have off is the perfect time but she says to wait. How can I tell her that I am not going to wait, that I am ready to marry her son and he's ready to marry me. She is always telling me to stop worrying about unimportant stuff when I bring up the wedding and to get the wedding thoughts out of my head. It hurts me bad.

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Master October 2015
MrsA · on June 17, 2015 at 10:53 AM
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Thank her for her generous offer of money but you and your FH have been engaged 2 years already and would like to get married in 2016.
If it pisses her off.....not your problem.
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Nicolette · on June 17, 2015 at 11:19 AM
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I mean it would be great to have more money because she said when she retires, she's a teacher, she will get all her vacation days at one time and it's over a 100 days and she said she will place that towards the wedding. So that will be almost 9k which is an amazing amount of money.
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DMN · on June 17, 2015 at 11:26 AM
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Elope now and big fancy vow renewal at your one year??
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Savvy March 2016
OttersHavingFun · on June 17, 2015 at 11:35 AM
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I know I would hate having that long of an engagement. However, I would consider listening to her. You're both young and she may just want you to start your life together on a more solid foundation. It always seems like young people graduate school and instantly want to jump into adulthood head first. House, car, wedding, babies, etc. That's a lot of big financial purchases at once. Nothing wrong with maybe spreading them out a bit which is what it sounds like to me she wants you to do.
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kahlcara · on June 17, 2015 at 11:40 AM
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As long as you can afford to have the wedding when you're planning it, I wouldn't think about pushing it back another year. But I'd encourage you to really sit down and think about all the things that could happen and make sure you'll still be able to afford the wedding and be ok financially, if for example, your FH can't find a job right away and has to start paying back loans (assuming he has some), or finishing school takes longer than expected. I'm not trying to rain on your parade, just make sure you have your bases covered.
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Amber · on June 17, 2015 at 11:41 AM
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If you can afford it then I wouldn't wait.
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