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Alexis, on February 4, 2020 at 7:03 PM

FMIL has been know to be very extra and opinionated. I get that that’s just her personality, but tell me why she’s trying to be the only person to do an outfit change at our wedding?? I’m not even changing for the reception, and she’s not doing it to be more comfortable, because both of the dresses are long and glamorous. I kinda feel like she just wants the attention, because the whole time FH and I were planning the wedding she would talk and give opinions as if it were her wedding. It’s only just stopped as FH put his foot down. It just rubs me the wrong way that she’s planning on doing an outfit change at our wedding and not even the bride is doing one. I also have no idea how to accommodate her outfit change unless she wants to do it in a small restroom stall?? And when asked why she was doing an outfit change she literally said “why not?” And I don’t have an answer for that w/o being rude and just saying because I don’t want you to, stop being so extra?? 😭 Am I overreacting? I feel like I’m being a little dramatic but it just really rubs me the wrong way when looked at as a whole picture with all the planning stuff that’s happened.

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Willow · on February 5, 2020 at 2:32 PM
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This is not a big deal. Don't bother about accommodating her in any way. Let her change in a bathroom stall. The only people who do notice will think she spilled something, ROFL.

I've seen moms change, but it's typically because they're wearing both a Western gown and a cultural dress.
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Sarah · on February 5, 2020 at 3:05 PM
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Honestly if she wants to change let her. Some people are eccentric. Just let her know she will have to change in a restroom stall, that she won’t have a dressing room to change in.
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Gen · on February 5, 2020 at 4:04 PM
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My guess is that literally no one will notice her outfit change 😂 and if they do, so what? It’s pretty hard to take attention away from a bride on her wedding day. I really don’t think her changing will detract any attention from you... if people do notice they’ll probably just think she’s (1) a bit weird and/or (2) an over-excited MOG. I’d just let it go. As long as she’s not wearing white.
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Nakesha · on February 5, 2020 at 4:18 PM
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You're not losing it, your fmil is being unreasonable thinking that changing during anyone else's wedding is acceptable. Especially since you're not changing AND you've heard her out on her suggestions. I would have FH remind her that this day is about the two of you and celebrating your love not her need for recognition.
If she chooses to change after that, let her figure out where. If anyone notices, they'll likely think she either spilled something on herself or she had some kind of "accident." Very few people will think she fully intended to change before hand. Matter of fact, reccomend she change into something the same color as your bridesmaids and when she comes out, you'll be haled a hero for "looking out for" your mil. If she goes in wearing something in your colors and comes out in something else that doesn't, she'll look foolish. 🤷🏾‍♀️ Either way, not a negative on you or your groom.
I say warn her that she'll only have a small stall and no additional arrangements will be made for her, pics will keep rolling and the party will keep going while she's gone and then let her choose. In the meantime, laugh it off, nobody can grab the spotlight on your special day.
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