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Alexis, on February 4, 2020 at 7:03 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 24

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FMIL has been know to be very extra and opinionated. I get that that’s just her personality, but tell me why she’s trying to be the only person to do an outfit change at our wedding?? I’m not even changing for the reception, and she’s not doing it to be more comfortable, because both of the dresses are long and glamorous. I kinda feel like she just wants the attention, because the whole time FH and I were planning the wedding she would talk and give opinions as if it were her wedding. It’s only just stopped as FH put his foot down. It just rubs me the wrong way that she’s planning on doing an outfit change at our wedding and not even the bride is doing one. I also have no idea how to accommodate her outfit change unless she wants to do it in a small restroom stall?? And when asked why she was doing an outfit change she literally said “why not?” And I don’t have an answer for that w/o being rude and just saying because I don’t want you to, stop being so extra?? 😭 Am I overreacting? I feel like I’m being a little dramatic but it just really rubs me the wrong way when looked at as a whole picture with all the planning stuff that’s happened.

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Caytlyn · on February 4, 2020 at 7:08 PM
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No one is going to get more attention at a wedding than the bride and groom. You really have nothing to be worried about.
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Suzie · on February 4, 2020 at 7:09 PM
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I think your FH needs to have this conversation with her and explain that an outfit change for the MOG is unacceptable. The focus should be on you two, not her outfit. Let him handle it though, but he needs to stay firm and on your side.
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Suzie · on February 4, 2020 at 7:10 PM
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Also what Caytlyn said. If I witnessed something like that I would just ignore and move on. And prob laugh at her need to change. “Oh no, did you spill something on your dress?”
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Kelly · on February 4, 2020 at 7:11 PM
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I doubt anyone will even notice. Most people don’t pay attention to anyone other than the bride and groom at weddings. I couldn’t tell you what any parents have worn at weddings and I go to 4 or 5 a year.
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Julie · on February 4, 2020 at 7:15 PM
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Omg how do you go to so many? That sounds exhausting. I don't think I even know that number of people getting married. Just me and my cousin. (Wait that came out wrong/ambiguously. I'm not marrying my cousin. She's getting married in May)
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Kelly · on February 4, 2020 at 7:17 PM
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Haha I don’t know I just feel like I’m at that age where everyone’s getting married! It’s slowing down some now that I’m in my 30s. One year I was in 5 weddings in a 6 month time span all in a different state. Being in a sorority probably contributed to the amount I attended lol.
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Chrysta · on February 4, 2020 at 8:56 PM
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Wow, that IS extra lol Seriously, what are these people thinking?! 🤦🏼‍♀️ I think you have all the right in the world to be annoyed by this- FMIL is being ridiculous. I wouldnt worry about “accommodating her wardrobe change”. If she feels the need to change, she can figure out the logistics. Honestly, I think if she goes through with it, she will end up making herself look desperate for attention. I think it’d be easier for you to just let it go and let her make herself look ridiculous.
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Julie · on February 4, 2020 at 9:26 PM
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Two questions:

1) Is this her only child/eldest son?2) How long has she been divorced?
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Julie · on February 4, 2020 at 9:27 PM
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Okay. You being in a sorority makes me feel a LOT better. And being in 5 weddings in 6 months?? That makes my wallet hurt so much that I can feel it acutely
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Samantha · on February 4, 2020 at 10:02 PM
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I agree a wardrobe change for the MOG is outrageous. At the end of the day though, people won't remember her wardrobe change, they'll be more concerned about you and your groom. I also wouldn't put any thought into accommodating her wardrobe change or finding the space for it. She figured out she needed two dresses...she can figure out where to change.
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Judith · on February 4, 2020 at 10:48 PM
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Who cares? People will spend about one minute looking. Then, no more special attention. If it makes her happy to do something simple, just let her. Don't go to any great lengths to make a place for her to change. While off changing, she won't get any attention at all. Trade off. Meanwhile it has nothing to do with the attention people will pay to you or the groom, so why bother worrying. It is a nothing idea on her part. Ignore her planning. Say, change or don't change, I don't care. And leave it at that . If anyone brings it up, say, So what?
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Judith · on February 4, 2020 at 10:53 PM
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Exactly. You just had a spontaneous urge to change clothes in the middle of a party, and happened to have an outfit and shoes in your purse? People will mildly poke fun at her or ignore her.
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Leslie · on February 5, 2020 at 1:07 AM
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They’ll just think she was a mess and had to change clothes. Lol.
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Taylor · on February 5, 2020 at 8:16 AM
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Honestly, if people notice her new dress at all, I think they will have the same reaction to this as you. "Why did she change?" Nobody cares about what the mother of the groom is wearing. I wouldn't worry about it. Let her be a diva.
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Ahardwick · on February 5, 2020 at 8:35 AM
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Hunny that’s your day regardless how many times she changes how wonderful her outfits may be, all attention is focused on you and your groom. Let her change she can’t have her cake and eat it to 🤪
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Deb · on February 5, 2020 at 8:38 AM
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I have only seen this once and managed to embarrass myself by noticing. It was the MOG and I noticed she was in a different dress and I went up to her and said oh no did you spill something on that pretty dress you were wearing. It was after a few glasses of wine but I still felt awkward when she told me that is how it is done I their circles.
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Alyssa · on February 5, 2020 at 9:07 AM
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People will likely not notice what the MIL is wearing. They will DEFINITELY notice if the bride changes gowns. If it makes her feel "extra" then so be it, as long as she isn't wearing white.
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Sherry · on February 5, 2020 at 10:58 AM
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If her changing outfits makes her feel better, so be it. It won't affect you, your wedding day or change the fact that all eyes will still be on you and your groom.
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MrsD · on February 5, 2020 at 1:34 PM
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I would just let her do it! No one will even notice (even if she thinks they will).
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Melle · on February 5, 2020 at 1:36 PM
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So I had this happen to me. Not my mother or family members but it was a wife of one of the groomsmen. SHE CHANGED OUTFITS! She had on a black short dress for the ceremony and then for the reception she had on a long gold dress and with that she also changed her hair. And my friends commented because they noticed the change, and their response was what? They were looking at HER weird for it because who does that at someone else's wedding they're not even a part xD or in general. So as PpS said - you won't be overshadowed, whoever does that will be looked upon weird.
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