My FMIL is a rather "complex" woman.
She only shops from HSN (Home Shopping Network) and evine. This Includes her wedding attire. She sent my FH a picture of what she ordered for the wedding and it's totally inappropriate. A bright poly blend turquoise top with big turquoise sequins on the front that she plans to wear with basic black pants. My Mom is wearing a classy cocktail dress (dark blue with navy lace overlays). My Dad is wearing a new suit (also in the dark blue family). My FFIL will have a suit on, but it will no doubt be at least 20 years old, ill fitting, and quite shabby. I'm not really concerned about him, because the men can get away with a lot more than the women.
She refuses to let anyone touch her hair, or rather wig (which doesn't fit her properly - bought on evine, of course) or put makeup on her. It's really sad because back in the day she was very stylish, took good care of herself (bathed regularly, makeup, nice clothes, etc.) Clearly she is in severe mental distress and has been for years but everyone just ignores it/denies it.
Anyway, I've seen several pantsuits at Macys, Davids Bridal, Lord & Taylor, etc. that are very reasonably priced, (hell, I know my FH would pay for it!) that would be much more appropriate for the mother of the groom. I don't know how to approach this - I want to help her. I invited her to come with me to pick up my gown and she declined.
She wants no part in anything and is only worried about how the days events will impact her! For instance, she doesn't want to walk her son up the aisle or stand by him, no mother - son dance either. Basically she wants to be invisible/just another guest.
This is really frustrating. I'm not asking her to do anything. I feel bad for my FH - to have such a selfish parent that cares only about herself and what her children can do for her.
In terms of her wardrobe - I would like to see her in something other than that hideous turquoise top!!!! How do I approach this????? FH says let it go, she's stubborn, won't listen, and is going to do what she's going to do.