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Dedicated August 2019

fmil Game Playing?

Blag, on July 24, 2019 at 6:09 PM

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Hi i got a request from fiancé the other day that I please call his mom because she has questions about something. I thought it was strange because I didn’t understand why she was wanting me to call and why she couldn’t just call me to ask her questions. I texted her saying hey ****** said you have...
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i got a request from fiancé the other day that I please call his mom because she has questions about something. I thought it was strange because I didn’t understand why she was wanting me to call and why she couldn’t just call me to ask her questions. I texted her saying hey ****** said you have questions. You’re more than welcome to give me a call. Then she responded saying she’d welcome my call. I then repeated myself saying she could give me a call yesterday anytime or whenever really. She never responded. Then I hear her complaints from my fiancé that she thinks I should call and I’m just like what in the world is this a game. Logically it doesn’t make sense. This isn’t the first time of her little game playing and drama filled imagination. I thought before I put the end of her drama as I told her it was basically too much (it was extremely bad before) and that I wasn’t going to be playing her games and putting up with it. She cursed out my mom before for no good reason, tends to twist things, lie and manipulate. I’m so tired of it. I feel kinda dumb that I even reached out to her because I should have put my foot down and drew the line. I dunno if it makes sense but this whole thing could have been easy but she wants to make it difficult. If someone has questions why don’t they just reach out to the person it’s so freakin easy!

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    Dedicated August 2019
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    I dunno I think that if I give into her constantly putting other people as the middle man to communicate and then I reach out to her she’ll keep doing that and it has caused issues in the past so it’s almost like she needs to be taught not to keep doing it that way. She even emailed my mom asking for my direction today and my mom said she has nothing to do with it and told her to contact me directly. Then all she replied with was she’ll wait for my direction. It almost seems like she wants to avoid reaching out to me directly. If I play into her game she’ll never learn how to be a grownup and just ask the person directly. It seems like she wants to be in control or something I dunno and maybe for attention?
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    Yeah he tried telling her to stop with the little games but she’s a very very stubborn woman and doesn’t listen to anyone. I don’t even really see a relationship with her at this point. She acts so immature and it is just so mind-bottling. Ehh
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  • Nicole
    Super October 2021
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    This ^^


    It goes both ways. Be the bigger person or get caught up in the games.

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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
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    This sounds kinda like my FMIL. Very manipulative, something of a narcissist, in my honest view. Don't worry about it too much, when you are ready, give her a call and ask what was it that she wanted. If she doesn't answer, let it go, because what are you supposed to do, ring her phone down? Then who knows, she may come and say "Wow son, your fiance is ringing my phone down like a mad woman, what's her deal".... LMAO that may be a stretch but some people are really like that, there's no winning with them. But yeah, if she doesn't answer, then all you can do is shoot her a text and tell her that you tried calling and left a voicemail, and that she can get back to you when she has a chance. Your FH should be talking to his mother though, making sure that there's no kinks or misinterpretations of information.

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  • Heather
    Expert August 2020
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    Why didn’t your fiancé just tell her to call you herself? That’s so ridiculous
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    He said he did and then she said she didn’t want to and wanted me to. So I pushed back and told him if she needs me to answer some question she doesn’t need to play this game and to contact me directly. She then went to my mom asking me to reach out to her and my mom told her to reach out directly to me. Then she replied saying I’ll wait for her direction. She’s a little b****. I can’t stand her childish nature.
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