Flower girl(s)

I think they would be fine walking down the aisle. Do you plan to have a ring bearer? Maybe if they're a little older, they can help lead the way.

Pick both of them. i have 2 flower girls and they will be 3 and 2 . I am going to have them walk down together w/ my son (who will be 3.) They dont need to drop flowers. I dont care about that. I am going to have them hold kissing balls and my son escort them down.

But i think it will be fine.

Pick both. I haven't seen a solo flower girl in years. Last wedding I went to had 3.

I think it is fine to ask both, there's really no downside to having two FGs. However, given their ages, I'd be prepared for either or both of them to potentially not make it down the aisle (also doesn't matter...). Depending on where they are developmentally and their personalities they could easily refuse to walk the day-of, and at those ages, what they are okay with can literally change on a daily basis.... At 3, daughter was SUPER independent, suddenly at 3.5 she would cling to me constantly; I'd just expect it to be a crap-shoot and roll with whatever it is. Regardless, they can wear cute dresses and be in photos, so there isn't really a downside. (Daughter had 2 FGs -- ages 4 & 8, and 2 RBs -- ages 6 & 10 [all siblings]. After attending a wedding where the processional got held up for a good 10-minutes while the FG had a meltdown, daughter made it clear to the kids' parents and her DOC, that, if any of the kids changed their mind at the last minute, the DOC or their dad would just pull them out of the line and the wedding would go on without them. They all made it down the aisle -- although, the eldest RB slugged his little brother, HARD, literally seconds before they walked.... Daughter and FOB were right behind them and just held their breath to see what would happen; luckily they just walked. She also had all four kids sit with their dad in the second row, rather than have them attempt to stand for the ceremony.) Good luck!

Why not both? Especially if you don't mind.

My flower girl will be my 19 years old sister in law. (not having kids at my wedding.

I'd have them both be a flower girl.

I think you'll be fine having both! We have 1 flower girl (15 months) and 4 ringbearers (5, 3, 3, and 8 months). I've been to plenty of weddings with 2-3 year olds as flower girls or ringbearers. You could always get a wagon for them to be pulled in if you'd rather do that. They should be able to walk down, though. My 5 year old ringbearer is going to pull my 15 month y/o flower girl down the aisle. The 3 year olds will be walking.

You could definitely do both. But I can tell you, my nephew is 2.5 and he's our Ring Bearer. He is not capable of walking down the aisle himself, so he's going to be escorted by his mama, who is a bridesmaid. He might be able to walk down himself but so far it's not looking promising (he's easily distracted, and he's been having lots of tantrums for no reason lately), so mama will either walk him or carry him down, and that's OK. Then he will go sit with his grandma after he's done.

I'd see if you think the two of them can walk together, and if not, have the little one go with her papa, and have the other one get walked down by another person, if she's incapable of going down the aisle herself.

I really think the age limits are passé. Flower people these days can be any gender or age, and don't even have to have flowers any more! Your niece will have fun and she'll be happy she's been included.

You never know what you are gonna get with a two year old. I would say since you have the 3 year old for the 2 year old to follow, it probably will be fine, but you never know.

My FH was in a wedding recently and the 2 year old did NOT want to go down the aisle. Luckily there was also a 1.5 year old who thought running down the aisle was a blast and the 2 year olds mom told her it was a race. Both ran down the aisle and it was adorable, but it could have been bad.

We were initially going to have 3 flower girls, similar ages to what you have(3.5 and 2), and their mom, but when my dad got sick and we moved things up a year, we cut the one that was going to be 2 by the time of the wedding. Both our initial plans for the FG and the RB, the oldest one was going to be 3.5, so we were planning on having the FG's mom walk down with her, and the RB's dad walk with him, making sure that each kid had someone they were familiar with and comfortable with, to hopefully avoid any problems.

We switched out the ring bearer from my FH's cousin's 1 year old son, to my cousin's 7 year old son.