Flower Girl/Ring Bearer Help!

Just my opinion, but from past experience more than two children in a wedding can be very stressful for all involved. It might be best not to have any of them in your wedding - no stress, no hurt feelings!

I want to do 2 of each, just wanted some advice as to who to pick, what ages would be best!

I agree with Susan to some extent but since you ask, if I were in your place, I'd forget about the younger ones, and just blame it on the fact that they're too young and the oldest ones are more likely to do what they're suppose to and follow directions.

Ring bearers: 6yo and 3 yo

Flower girls: grooms niece and one bride cousin 5yo and 5yo

Their parents should understand your choices, but if you want all of them in the wedding, I'd forget about the 2 year olds completely, as for the other little girls, you can have 2 of them come in with a "here comes the bride sign" or "this is your last chance to run" sign...etc

good luck...

Any that are siblings?

That can also go both ways.... pick the siblings to go together, or just pick the older one (because they would be more reliable and less likely to chicken out - but a shy kid always get the oohhh and giggles from the crowd)

The 2 yr olds might be too shy to do it unless they have a sibling walking with them, and still might not do it. So, I would say the 6 and 3 yr old for the boys and your pick for the girls. (or do one of the 2yr olds and cross your fingers and have the 6yr old hand out programs or bubbles)

Also, the 2nd one can do different "stuff"

Ring a bell, hold a banner that says "here comes the bride"

The girls, I also think the ones you don't pick might be able to hand out programs with an older cousin helping....

Good Luck!

Are they all very close, or do some of them live further away? it was easy to pick our ring bearer and flower girl because they were the only 2 that lived in our town, and we spend alot of time with them!

Wow, that is hard! And they're all so close in age. I think the older ones might be a little better. but the young ones would be so cute too!

I'm lucky, my FH has a daughter and she'll be 6 at the time of the wedding... So she'll be the flower girl. haven't decided on ring bearer yet!

I am very very close to my 3 year old nephew, but he does have a 2 year old brother so dont want to be leaving him out, however i think its a good idea to leave both 2 year olds out. All of them live by us. Its just hard becayse my fiances neice and his cousin are very close and have been in the past 3 family wedding flower girls.

Maybe do your girls for the flower girls and his for the program and bubbles (since you said they have been the flower girls for lots of other weddings)

I think the family would under stand that the 2yr olds are kinda young to be a ring bearer.

good luck!

ring bearer poem

How lucky we are to have a ring bearer

Who's so cute in every way.

Someone who knows how to walk down an aisle

And steal everyone's heart away.

So thank you for being our ring bearer,

And helping to lead the way.

But thank you most of all for helping

To make ours a perfect wedding day.

flower girl poem

You are so very young but the years will pass by,

And you’ll too be a bride in the blink of an eye.

While you may not remember the day that I married,

The part that you played or the basket you carried.

There will be a day that will burn bright like an ember,

The day you will wed, you will always remember.

So here is a hankie for the day you will say…

“I need ‘something old’ for my wedding day.

I had my 2 year old neice be an honorary flower girl. She wore a white dress like the other girls but she didn't have to actually walk down the aisle.

I had 2 girls be memorial flower bearers, 2 girls be train bearers and 1 girl be a flower girl. I chose the youngest girl to be flowergirl, though you might want to use the oldest since my youngest was 8.

It made for super cute pictures.

I say have them all! I wish we had more little ones, we only have one nephew, he was our ring bearer. Kate Moss's wedding photos looked so amazing with all the flower girls...so do Pumpkins!

Its really up to you since there are 4 girls and 4 boys you could always have 1 boy walk with each girl kinda like mini bridesmaids...thats just an idea though we have 4 flower girls and 2 ring bearers for our wedding

It's my opinion that children btw the ages of 2-4 may seem a little immature or unmanageable giving the excitement of the event. I would go with the groom's 6 y/o nephew as the ring bearer and the bride's 5 y/o cousin as the flower girl....hope this is helpful.

My 3 y/o niece was our ring bearer. She came down the aisle holding her older brother's hand (I think. I'll have to go check the video.) but didn't even make it through the welcome before her dad had to come get her. It was just too long a day for that age- we'd already done pictures (and I don't think we got any decent ones of her) and then waited to go down the aisle...she was done! I would do it again, because I had appropriate expectations and wasn't disappointed that it worked out that way. It was a little disruptive, although I didn't realize how much until we watched the video. It all happened behind me and I was focused on FH :-)

I vote to choose the youngest of each group. With the ring bearer, choose the youngest on the groom's side.

I'm so glad I don't have to make that sort of decision. Our beautiful border collie, Kiara will be our ring bearer, and having no flower girl.

We have 5 smaller kids between the 2 of us in the family so i decided that the youngest boy/girl are the RB and FG the rest i put as JR bridesmaids, and JR Groomsmen so that no one was left out.

I've seen weddings with more then one flower girl, it's adorable and cute when one of them helps the other one by showing her what to do (one had stage fright and her sister came up and helped her). As for the ring bearer, I would choose the oldest, there's less of a chance of accidents! But I also don't see a problem with having the oldest walk down first with the pillow and then have everyone else walk behind him (tallest to shortest?). We will prob just tell the parents of whoever is the flower girl(s) and ring bearer to put them in there Sunday best, they are so young anyway that I could buy them clothes a month before the wedding and they wouldn't fit right!