five years trying and still no baby...any advice???

Well, first, it may not be YOU that is the problem. Men have problems too. My advice would be that the two of you BOTH need to get checked out. Your FH could have a low sperm count, which could mean they might need to physically extract any usable sperm and implant it directly into you. I'm not familiar with all the reason why women cannot get pregnant, unfortunately, but a fertility doctor can definitely help you both figure out what the best way is for you to become pregnant.

Seeing a doctor would be the best option. but the funnest one? practice practice practice! lol good luck!

Jlacy1987-thanks...ive talked to the doctor the only advice she had for me was too drop weight, i honestly have tried that too...lol...and still no luck...but im going to have to take my FH and myself to a fertility clinic and get a second opinion...i have even tried birth control to regulate my period and that didnt work either...i honestly have a period like once a year and birth control didnt even help me regulate..and im pretty sure thats how you ovulate...the doctor was like your just going to have to give it time...idk...so im going to try to find a fertility clinc close by to see what i could doo thanks!!

LoveDevine- lol...thats funny....thanks!!!

Take the advice of you medical provider, and follow that. Other than that, STOP TRYING!!! I mean keep practicing, but ralax, start talking about adopting, etc.... so many couples stop actually trying, look into other avenues, then HELLO.... Stork lands on their doorstep!

Good Luck to you both!

We are in the same boat. I know how you feel. Right now we are just taking it one at a time. I am looking into going to a fertilty specialist, after we are married. It lke every month it's a disappointment. I can't even go to a babyshower. I have also cut people off that have gotten pregnant. So this has really taken over my life. But honestly the best thing would be to go to the doctor and see whats going on. I do have a six year old and an eight year old. So I am hoping that nothing is wrong w/fh and I. I am sure nothing is wrong with you. I wish you the best of luck.

Lovely Weddings- thanks..i never thought about that...maybe if we put it too the back of our mind for a while it will help, and we wont be soo stressed...thanks soo much!

Trina- thanks...its good to know that im the only one going thru this...i feel the same exact way i dont even like being around other people that are pregnant..which is very hard because my FH little cousin has been with her boyfriend for a little over a year and BAM she's pregnant!...idk....its sad i always catch myself watching the baby channel and getting all depressed...lol...oh well but yeah once we get married if there is still no luck after soo long than hopefully we could get help somewhere....thanks=)

Have you been trying since you were 15?

your profile says that you are 20?

I'm confused.

Have you tried an ovulation kit? See your physician and gyno and they also have fertility specialists at HMOs too.

I know a couple people who, like you, do not get a regular period and are therefore not ovulating on a regular basis. That makes it much more difficult to get pregnant! But I do know that their doctor said when they start trying to get pregnant they might need to be put on a drug called Clomid (not sure on spelling). Supposedly it forces you to ovulate and get your period which increases your opportunity to get pregnant. Maybe you could ask about it when you visit your doctor. Good luck!

Oh and doesn't it seem like this is becoming much more common nowadays. It seems like almost everyone needs help getting pregnant somehow or another. It's kind of scary!

We eventually went with adoption.

My wife and I tried for 10 years for a second child without success. It was a very difficult time for us. We are both healthy but no success. We spent lots with doctors and fertility clinics. Finally we decided on adoption. It was a 4 year process but last November we came home from China with our daughter.

I can understand how adoption might not be for everyone. However, it is a most reward experience for us. We were worried about us bonding with her and her bonding with us. There really wasn't anything to worry about. The bonding for my wife and I was instant. And Emila bonded with us within the first 48 hrs. If there is room in your heart and your home for a child then adoption might be an avenue worth investigating.

Regards

James

You should talk to your Dr about checking your pituitary....

I have been through every medication and treatment to regulate my period and NOTHING!!! I too was struggling with bitterness when people around me were getting pregnant. I have put the issue "away" and trying to let nature take it's course. Best of luck to you!!

I love the idea of adoption. But our plan is to eventually be foster parents. And we do plan to adopt a child the is placed with the DCF 9social services). I antto do it this way, instead of adopting from an agency because. My mom has 7 kids including me. I am only 20 and the youngest is 7 a year older than my son. My four younger siblings where taken away from my mom by the state. And they have now been adopted. And I also worked in childcare for 4 years. I had a little girl in my class who was a foster child. And I feel in love with her. I actually still see her. Her foster parents adopted her. I'm very close to her. It fills my heart to know that we can make a difference in a child's life. But I won't stop trying for my own. When we are 35 we will begin the process to become foster parents

My sister and her husband tried for 6 years and finally did invetro. She said it costs like $10, 000, but my first niece is due any day now!

I would just make sure you are as healthy as you can be, take care of yourself and your body, and make it the best possible environment for a baby.

Have your thyroids checked. My first husband and I tried for 4 years before I found out I had hypothyroids. 3 months after I started taking thyroid medication and increasing my iodine levels I was prego.

I know this may sound really wierd but I think I read somewhere that having sex all the time can actually reduce your chances of getting prego... something to do with his sperm count not having enough time to re populate for lack of better words.. like everyone above said I think I would see a professional.! Good Luck!

I'm and adopted kid! My mom had several painful miscarriages and they did fertility rounds and all, and it just didn't work out the way they planned. But it worked out for me! I have PCOS and know its unlikely that I will be able to become pregnant, although we will probably try, and its comforting to know that I CAN have kids--just not necessarily through pregnancy.

Going to the fertility clinic will give you a much better idea of what is going on so you can plan from there.

I'd ask the doctor to do tests or something.. because you shouldn't be trying more then a year pushing 2 yrs without anything. Yes droping weight is helpful but that is not a major factor considering I know many overweight girls that have kids and some have more then 1.

PCOS is very popular in woman, they say it's more popular in overweight women. I too have it. I was told i had it at age 17. It puts a strain on possibly getting pregnant but it's not impossible....

I would really suggest for you and him to get checked. Tests can help figure out whats going on. Are you temping at all?

Everyone says to just not think about it and it will happen! It's hard not to think about it. We've been tryinig for 3 yrs and I got pregnant 2 times. both times were miscarriages. It took a year in between to get pregnant. I know what you are going through. After the wedding I am going to have tests done on me to see what the deal is. This last one I couldn't even bear to be arround pregnant women for I think like 4 months. I know how stressful this situaion must be for you and I wish you all the best.