My FH and I have had our first wedding planning disagreement and it is over the guest list. I don't want children at the wedding, because toddlers have a tendency to just start crying and throwing a fit at any moment because they do not have the social skills yet necessary to realize how they should conduct themselves in certain situations. This presents a problem because at the time of our wedding, FSIL will have a two and a half year old toddler, and my own sister will have a one and a half year old, and two other children under teenager years. I mainly do not want my sister's children there because she has a tendency to not make them mind very much, however my FH thinks we can't not allowed children because of FSIL. I know FSIL would make her child mind, but there's still that nagging fear that a child will start screaming in the middle of the ceremony or some other important moment. FH says I am thinking too much into this and that we don't need to worry about screaming children because it'll "be a non-issue."
Am I worrying about this too much? Would I be taboo to simply have my sister's invitation be just for her and one guest and leave it at that? She lives out of state anyway and I don't think she would travel with all of her children (she possibly might not even come at all for non-children related issues, I am sure).
I know my sister has a tendency to be drama-prone and she over-reacts. I am afraid that if I make her invitation +1 only and she comes and sees FSIL's child that she'd cause an issue.
We aren't going to have a wedding party, but do you think I could get out of this my making FSIL's daughter a flower girl of some sort? At two and a half years old though, I have my doubts that she'd be able to properly navigate her flower girl duties without assistance of an older person.
My FH and I just do not agree. He said I could make it adults only if I want to but he says that he thinks his FSIL might not come then because they wouldn't want to find a babysitter. I am a total loss of what to do.
