First Time Planning a Bachelorette Party - How to Ask for $$$

So, is it $75 pp or $130?

You should be direct.

Say something along the lines like...

"Hey Ladies,

We are planning a kickass time for (bride's name). I can't wait to see you ladies there. Here's the planned itinerary.

(Insert plans of what you all will be doing.)

All the festivities, plus food will be (insert cost).

Please contact me individually at (phone number/ email) to confirm your attendance and to send the money. Please, please, please contact me with any concerns."

Of course, add your own touches and flair.

Hopefully, this helps. lol

Good point on being direct - thank you for pointing that out. The total cost would be $130 all-in. Maybe I could include a line that itemizes what that includes so that they know exactly where the money is going?

Something like:

All of the festivities plus food will be $130/per person which covers the following:

- T-Shirt ($25)

- Groceries/Snacks ($30)

- Private Chef ($75)

I also love the line at the end where you mentioned "please, please, please contact me with any concerns." I truly don't want anyone to feel overwhelmed! Thank you for your help!

I think you are doing this backwards. You should first talk to everyone to determine everyone's budget and then plan the bachelorette party based on that number. You should not be choosing what the activities are and then telling people afterward how much they need to pay.

View Quoted Comment Makes sense. I should also mention that there are 16 girls coming to the weekend so it’s not a small group. I did go to the bridal party first (8) to gauge their thoughts and together we made the itinerary. Now we’re about a month or so out so I’m doubting myself and wondering if I should have checked with the group of that size? I’m also hearing there’s no way to please everyone. So stressful!

thanks for the input!!

There is no way to please everyone.

Also, it's kind of up to the bride or at least she gets some say in the activities. If she wants to do something, but people can't afford it, she shouldn't have to miss out. If people can't make it, they should understand that it's their own personal situation.

Ask for them to Venmo you and provide the info. Or let them mail a check. If you don’t collect in advance, you’ll have a few cancel last minute and you’re out the money.

I agree with short , sweet and direct. People should know bachelorettes are not free to attend and if you’ve invited them already, they technically could have planned to set aside money to attend. If you haven’t invited yet, do so now and be up front about costs. Those that can’t afford won’t go.