First time living with Fh?

I have been living with my FH for almost 6 months now. Just seeing the little and big things that we just got a glimpse of before we moved in together was kind of shocking. Trying to learn about what we are both good and not so good at and the things that irritates us that the other does such as leaving things on the coffee table or not rinsing off dishes or leaving the tp roll empty. Just those small things. You will learn a lot about each other good and bad. I learned my FH doesn't like to clean and I like a clean place. It's all about compromise

It will be my first time living with my fh. I come from a very traditional Hispanic family so living together was not an option for us. We are really not concerned about anything. Both of us are an open book. For example we are both really bad with putting clothes away and he has sent me pictures of a pile on the floor. I have sent him pictures of my laundry room as my second closet lol. However we did Pre marital counseling and it really had us talk about a ton of the things like who does what chore or time apart ect. Having those conversations I think has helped to prepare us for moving in together. I think we are most excited about just being able to be with each other going to sleep and waking up.

This will be FH and I’s first time living together also! We have been dating long-distance since day one, so we’ve never known any different. I think long-distance dating definitely has some perks – you get quality “you” time and time with friends, without dipping into your time with your spouse. And it also keeps things fresh and new because you do not have the humdrum day to day life stuff that you have when living together. We never get bored with each other or our relationship, and we are always super excited to see one another! That is one of the things I am worried about losing once we live together. I am also very nervous about living part-time with a child. He has a 7 yr old son from a previous relationship, whom he has 50/50 custody of. I have never wanted children, and really don’t have any experience with them. So the thought of having him live with us part time makes me very nervous!

View Quoted Comment That’s exactly how we feel. We are both pretty laid back so we don’t have too many worries either . it’s jjst so exciting to be able to spend each day with one another and not have to schedule dates etc I am so excited 😆

View Quoted Comment Yes that’s exactly how we have been with our LDR . We really learned to value our time together . I think it should work well once we are married bc we will remember a time when we lived apart and didn’t have these experiences. Also Bless your heart I really hope the adjustment with your step child will get easier each day. That age isn’t too bad you can kind of get along with kids that age . Doing small things like getting ice cream or playing uno lol they are usually pretty appreciative of time spent . Goodluck fellow bride you got this !

View Quoted Comment Yes I agree with compromise I’m sure we will have to learn all of that but I’m super excited to start !!😅

Like Ali said, you’ll learn more about each other but it’s fun living with your significant other I’ve been living with mine since we were 16 or 17-18. We’ve been living together for 4 years now, almost 5. We moved in with each other before we got engaged. We got engaged last year on Christmas now 22-23 and our wedding is in 3 months !!! Super exciting ☺️ ❤️
But honestly we’ve had our ups and downs like any other couple. Learned a lot about each other even more and we compromise. He helps me clean sometimes but I prefer to do it myself because I love cleaning my own way. I just prefer to do everything lol but it’s really fun trust me. Living with your best friend ❤️

View Quoted Comment Oh it's really exciting and just everything I hoped it would be and more! There's nothing better than waking up next to each other and cooking for each other is another big one we enjoy. Good luck with your wedding and moving in together!

I’ve lived with 3 long term boyfriends, one when I was 22-23, one at 26, and then my fiancé now from 27-29. I would have married the first two guys but living with them made me realize they weren’t the one. I almost left my fiancé too but we worked things out. Clothes on the floor and hairs in the sink wasn’t the hard part. Experiencing how they handle money, paperwork, space, time, and having nowhere else to go when you have an argument are the hard parts. So just be patient and kind, remember that you love them and can negotiate these things.

View Quoted Comment Girl YASSS you’re making me even more excited I can’t wait 70 days to go!!!!!😭😭

My hubby moved in the house about 7 months after our engagement... Had absolutely zero issues... We're super respectful and he makes the house a home truly. No greeting pains as when he moved in I wasn't using the 2 additional rooms and 1 extra bathrm... Its like he's made me step up as a home dweller in truly in utilizing the whole house.



We had space and he got an office-man cave lol and I got the backyard I wanted... I honestly dont know how we never lived together before lol.

View Quoted Comment Awe this is so sweet !!!!!😩😩😩😍😍😍I hope we have a smooth transition like that !

Everyone here has shared some great advice!

At least for me, sharing my space with someone else is always a big adjustment, and I'm pretty darn laid back. How someone lives and spends their time behind closed doors is something that you can't really learn until you're living it with them, and as PPs mentioned, it's more than chores or figuring out a new sleeping arrangement.

You can talk and talk and think you're prepared for how to handle certain situations or quirks, but you don't really know someone's habits and how they like to truly spend their time until you're living with them. For some couples, it can be a super easy, seamless transition, but I think that's the exception, rather than the rule.

This isn't to say that you don't know your FH, or that you're doomed to have problems, or anything like that! It's just to say that it's a huge change, and one that deserves patience, lots of communication, and compromise.

I'm 32 and have been living with my FH for about 4 years; he moved in with me about 6 months after we met. I had experienced several different living situations by then, and I was sort of set in certain ways, so it was a lot to adjust to, and we definitely experienced some growing pains at the beginning. Even to this day, he still doesn't put dishes back in their proper places, but I just shake my head and laugh. If our biggest problem comes down to chore annoyance, I think we're doing pretty good.

We're very in sync with how we like to spend our time, and our energies mesh well together at home. That probably sounds weird, lol, but I'm personally super sensitive to that sort of thing. I think my favorite part about living with him at first was how it sparked a lot of conversations that led to a deeper understanding of him and his life before he met me. We all have habits and assumptions that we've picked up from people and places in our life along the way, and I enjoyed learning about those moments in time for him.

I'm also happy to say that neither of us are bored with living with each other, or our relationship--just the opposite, in fact! Great things are ahead for you, just give them a chance to develop if you run into issues early on.

I’ve been living with FH for the last 5 years, but I remember being downright scared of moving in together. He moved in at the end of senior year of college to help me out of a bad roommate situation and I was worried there’d be a lot of conflict. There has been zero. We both pick up chores when we can and have learned to live with each other’s eccentricities. He couldn’t stand the way I rolled the tooth paste, for example. So I learned to accommodate. I think if you’re both willing to sacrifice a little to make your partner happy, you’ll be fine.

View Quoted Comment What amazing advice !! I love everything you said ! I can’t wait to learn more about my FH too through this new transition 😍 . I’m sure we will have disagreements but I will definitely stay encouraged and let it run it’s course thank you !!!❤️❤️

View Quoted Comment My fiancé has a 9 year old from a previous marriage and he is with us about 75% of the time (probably a little more). I moved in with them a little over a year ago and the whole first year was extremely hard for all 3 of us. Some days I didn’t think we’d make it. But it’s gotten much better and we stuck it out. Just be aware that may happen!

We started dating very young and have been living together since we were 19/20. We are 26/27 now. So idk if this will relate to your situation well but living together seemed to solve 98% of issues we had (he's late for everything, never answers the phone, etc.)

New issues have come up now and then (we have different priorities of what should be done in the house, who should do it, etc) but I think one of the biggest and best things living together helps with is communication. If you make it a priority to sit down like every weeknight and have dinner together, you'll naturally communicate better (in my experience/opinion). Instead of not living together and making time for a phone call before bed or scheduling time to see each other, you both just come home at the end of the day.

When we first moved in I thought we would combine our lives and share laundry duties and go grocery shopping together and all that. We both soon realized it was better if we kind of did our own thing. I do my laundry, he does his. I do all the grocery shopping/cooking on my schedule, he does all the dishes and yard work on his schedule. That's just what has worked for us.

Don't be discouraged if it takes a while to figure out how to work together and separately on things in order for the house to run smoothly. Maybe because we were so young, it really took us 2 years before there were no more issues and we'd worked out all the kinks.

I've been living with my FH 4 1/2 years, and i have to say it's been pretty great. We didn't really have a moment of shock or anything. I think as long as you're respectful of each other space and things, merging into one home is gonna be a breeze.

Biggest pet peeve is for some reason FH can't manage to change the toilet paper...but i think that's men in general.

FH & I will be living together for the first time once we're married. I've had roommates for the past 8 years so I have at least lived with someone else before. Each roommate situation has gone great! I would say the only thing I'm worried about is the cleanliness. My FH is a very clean person and keeps things a lot cleaner than I do so I'm worried about me being too messy for him lol (I always keep common spaces really clean... just not my room). I have a TON of clothes/shoes & a huge walk in closet, but I still can't find a place for it all. I've been doing better the last year or so, though, since I know I have to be better when we move in together!

View Quoted Comment Lol this is so cute ! I love that you have to prepare to live with him I’m the same way I’m not super super clean so I’ve made more of an effort lately to be more clean around my home and room before I move in with FH lol!