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Mrs. Cohen
Super October 2018

First Look: Yes or No?

Mrs. Cohen, on February 19, 2018 at 4:08 PM

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The biggest debate my fiancé and I have encountered in this whole wedding planning process is, should we do a "first look" on our big day or keep it traditional with him seeing me for the first time as I walk down the aisle? Myself as well as our wedding photographer, both think a "first look" would...

The biggest debate my fiancé and I have encountered in this whole wedding planning process is, should we do a "first look" on our big day or keep it traditional with him seeing me for the first time as I walk down the aisle?

Myself as well as our wedding photographer, both think a "first look" would be ideal. And these are the reasons why I want the first look:

* I have an anxiety disorder, so I think seeing him before the big walk down the aisle would help calm my nerves.

* As our photographer pointed out, a first look would give my fiancé and I some good moments of being alone together. Once I walk down that aisle, we won't get another moment of being totally alone until the wedding is over and we drive off into the night.

* This would maximize time by allowing us to do the majority of our couple photos, photos with the bridal & grooms party, and even most of the family photos. This would give us more time to actually enjoy the entire wedding instead of being ushered around for photos between the ceremony, cocktails, dinner, and dancing.

* If happy tears do happen during the first look and photos, there is still time to freshen up before the ceremony commences.


My fiancé, however, really wants to keep things traditional, by my walking down the aisle being the first time he sees me on the wedding day. He says this is the only part of our wedding he dreams of, is seeing me walk down that aisle and that's why he wants to do things that way.


I think it's incredibly romantic that he wants that traditional experience, but I think the day will flow much more easily and we'll have a more relaxed experienced by getting the first look and majority of photos done first thing.


So, I ask... what are your thoughts on this? Smiley ring

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  • Elissa
    Dedicated September 2017
    Elissa ·
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    We did it, and are so glad we did. Then FH was fine either way, but I had a feeling it would really help calm my nerves, and I was right. I'm glad we had that special moment together with just us and our parents were in the background. I felt so much more at ease and was able to relax and enjoy the ceremony. Some of my favorite photographs are the ones taken between first look and the ceremony. But of course, it is a personal decision.

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  • Shayna
    Super August 2018
    Shayna ·
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    We are not doing a first look. However, to save some time on photos we are taking photos of all the groomsmen and groom and photos with the bride and bridesmaid separately before the ceremony. It won’t save as much time as a first look, but it will save some.
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  • Chandell
    Dedicated August 2018
    Chandell ·
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    We are not doing it I feel it will ruin the moment and i want that nervous energy. He would not go along with it anyway i asked lol. he wont see me for 24-48 hours before hand

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  • Erica
    Expert August 2018
    Erica ·
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    Not doing it. We agree that the first look should be the traditional walking down the aisle first look in front of all our love ones.
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  • SoontobeMrsG
    Dedicated April 2019
    SoontobeMrsG ·
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    I’m undecided 2!! I think it’s pretty cool when I saw a couple do it...very sweet but I do like the idea of no one seeing my dress until I walk in..but do what make you happy love
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  • M
    Savvy May 2018
    MrMonkey ·
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    It’s the same here, so instead i’m doing initial photos before the ceremony in another dress, and then changing into the wedding dress just before the ceremony. Can have the photographer take family photos that way, and there will be less photo stress later, but fh still only gets to see the wedding ensemble as that process starts. Seems a successful compromise.
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  • I
    Beginner July 2018
    Ingris ·
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    This is a great idea !
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