First Look Debate-Anyone Regret Doing It or Regret Not Doing it?

This is the one thing FH had a strong opinion about. He did not want to see me before I walk down the aisle, which I'm completely okay with as well.

We did one and I never once considered it a "photo op." Did I want to do one because of logistics? Yes. But that wasn't the only reason. I hadn't seen him since the night before and we were able to actually experience that moment of first seeing each other on our wedding day. I got to hug and kiss him and talk to him. Instead of just smiling at each other as 100 other people watched us do so.

I wouldn't trade those few minutes for anything.

We originally were totally against it but we changed our mind because people keep telling us it does NOT take away from seeing each other at the ceremony because no matter what walking down the aisle will be special.

To me this is an example of "what not to do when giving an opinion in order to prevent a post from turning into a shit show".

Someone who wants to give their opinion without being a dick:

"No, we wanted to save the first look for when I walk down the aisle."

Someone who apparently had someone piss in her cheerios:

"No, I would NEVER do that. And here are three reasons why it's such a shitty idea that I'm going to trash all people who do it."

It's simple. If you don't want to do it and it's not your thing, just say that. There's no reason to vehemently justify something unless you're insecure about it.

I'm still trying to convince FW because one of us will not get to see the other walk down the aisle and we are both wearing dress, therefore one misses out on the WOW !!! Moment ( insert sad face)

I'd really like to do one. I'm not sure if we're going to...I'm such a control freak with the decor that I'm worried I'll be too busy hovering over our table set up..lol.

we are doing a rock the dress shoot up north at the same time we bury the unity box though. we've got an editorial style shoot planned with a broken porcelain chandelier a 'sweetheart' table with destroyed Victorian chairs and some boho-ish accessories... my dad's fave deer skull with wildflowers, and a pelt over a table cloth. Lac du cerf means deer lake in english.

it's the shoot I always wanted to do when i was in photography school..lol...we already found our moss covered spot in the woods. so many ferns and pretty. hehe.

First look for the win. First looks are not cheesy, they are practical. Saves time and it lets you enjoy your cocktail hour (in our case). I got to hug everyone who came to my wedding. EVERYONE! If we were stuck taking pictures, that wouldn't have happened!

We decided not to do, we both want to have that memory of me walking down the aisle & FH seeing me for the first time so, we have built in separate photos before ceremony & group photos after

@tracy i think a first look sounds perfect for you. But. If she chooses not to...you could still see each other by meeting at the back and walking together. And I'd say even if you don't do that just because one of you walks and the other stands, you'll still get your wow moment. But. I think a first look or meeting at the back of the venue space to walk together would be perfect for you guys.

Also. Janeen exactly.

We decided we're doing one to have some pictures taken and also so we can have a private moment to ourselves on what would otherwise be a busy day.

We are, I am really looking forward to having that time together before the craziness starts!! It was the one thing that I wasn't willing to negotiate on.

Also, I want to eat and drink at the cocktail hour, that section of our venue is an old bank vault it's so cool!

We are planning on doing one for personal reasons but also for logistical reasons. Both my FH and I aren't super comfortable with expressing our feelings in front of a lot of people (him more than me) so I feel like the only way to get a truly genuine reaction from the both of us is if we have that semi-private moment together before the ceremony.

I also want to get a lot of photos out of the way before the ceremony so that we can enjoy some of the cocktail hour and get to mingle with our guests.

@JaRocka - *drops mic*

Exit stage left.

THANK YOU!

We didn't do one because we preferred to see each other at the alter. But to compromise for time and so we could enjoy our cocktail hour, we took as many pictures as we could before the wedding. I was dressed at 2:45 for my 4pm wedding. Then we only had to take the family pics, the pics with the bridal party as a whole and a few more pics of me and my husband after the wedding. Took an hour to do it.

We aren't doing a first look. We will take a few minutes after the ceremony to soak it all in. I don't see the problem either way. What works for one couple won't necessarily work for another.

@MoonRide - Thank you for your Husbands input, since he has done both it gave me both views.

My decision has been made - No first look for me. As far as the photo's are concerned FH hates taking pictures, so that was never going to be drawn out.

FH and I are doing one. And no, it isn't for the pictures (that's just a sweet bonus, and if it was who the fuck cares?) We decided that we wanted a moment where we could share our excitment with the two of us and not 150+. FH isn't a big social person, he'll be more relaxed and I know that I'll have 5,000 things going around my head and I'll need him to clear it. We balance eachother like that, hence why we're getting married. Everyone says the day goes so fast, so I'm taking a moment with him.

If it's not your thing, that's fine. But you're not better than me because you choose to do it another way. In fact, saying it all snub like (to reference Jo) makes you worse. Just because someone does it difderent than you, does not mean they do it wrong.

We didn't do one and I don't regret it one bit

We're doing a first look. I want to have a private moment with FH. Plus, logistically it helps.