First Look Debate-Anyone Regret Doing It or Regret Not Doing it?

We're doing a first look so that way we can get most of the tears out of the way and not be so nervous during the ceremony. Plus we wanted some quiet us time before the festivities.

We aren't doing it because I wanted to keep that tradition.

I do not want to do a first look with FH. I want the first time I we see each other on our wedding day to be when I walk down the aisle. I am wanting to do somewhat of a first look with my dad though. He actually wanted to wait to see me in my dress until the wedding day!

I really like the idea of not doing one but I cant justify making people wait around while we get pictures done so I am 95% sure we are doing a first look.

We aren't doing it because FH has asked for so little and this is one thing he wants, to see me for the first time when I walk down the aisle.

At first I didn't care either way but now after seeing a lot of photos of first looks, the reaction always looks forced to me so I'm not a fan anymore.

Do it. First look was the best. We got great pictures with great light. Your wedding is summer time so you should have time after if you decide to wait. But it was great to actually attend our cocktail hour, our guests loved seeing us there as well. It took some pressure off spending more time at each table during dinner.

We aren't going to do a first look. I've always dreamed of seeing FH for the first time that day when walking down the aisle. Everyone has different preferences though, so to each their own!

We're doing one. We want our first moments seeing one another to be just us. The photographer will come a few moments later.

We are doing one,logistics demanded it. And I'm okay with it. It'll be nice to have him to myself and the quiet.

And furthermore anyone saying 'just a photo op' as if to try to snub at it. Whatever. If you really felt that way you wouldn't hire a photographer at all. So don't be hypocritical and just embrace the time to truly be a little glamorous and narcissistic for one day.

So what. I'm getting married and my whole damn day is a photo op.

Wanna fight about it?

You're not better than anyone else and you're not any more married than anyone else.

^^^JO - yes!

We are doing it. We thought about it for a while and decided to because we want to relax during our cocktail hour instead of rushing around taking photos and then possibly being late for our own reception. We also wanted our bridal party to enjoy the cocktail hour too.

Oh boy, didn't know people got so heated about this. We are probably not doing one just because our ceremony has to be at 2:30 (Catholic Church) and I don't want everyone to have to get up at the ass crack of dawn to be ready for pictures before.

From another perspective, my fsil and fbil did first look plus all the wedding party shots before the ceremony. My kids were in wedding as ring bearers and 2 hours in July weather on a golf course did not make them happy campers. By the time the ceremony started everyone was hot and sweaty. Then she complained because they only had 2 nice photos with the kids.

The only reason we aren't doing one is our ceremony is at 10:30 AM. I want as much sleep as possible!

We plan on doing one. It was recommended by our photographer and I do have a lot of family pictures I want to get done after the ceremony. My logic is the more we can get done ahead of time, the better.

We're doing the first look.

it will be great for photos and to get some of the emotions out before walking down the aisle. I'll have a better chance of not crying my face off in front of 100-something people.

MNBride: generally it's not a heated discussion. But we apparently have a new contingent of people who seem to think it's okay to snub anyone who wants time to take extra time on pictures and quite frankly I'm not going to be quiet about that. Because that's just bullshit.

We did it and I have no regrets. We were able to get all our pictures, BP pictures, and immediate family pictures out of the way before the ceremony, so we only had 4 pictures to take afterwards and got to spend time with our friends/family at the cocktail hour.

Eh I think I would compare it to picking out rings. Some people were surprised (and quite frankly kind of snotty) when FH told them I helped pick out my ring. Did it make his proposal any less special because I already saw the ring? NO.

Each to their own but for me personally I hate the idea of them and won't be doing it.