First Dance Advice

We're just going to do the typical swaying back and forth in circles. I'm sure you have tons to worry about before the wedding, I wouldn't make this another thing to stress about. Just do what comes naturally!

My FH is really not super keen on dancing, while I am a dancing queen! He really does not want to take dance lessons, so we will just be practicing a way for us to dance for that minute and 30 seconds of our first dance song.

We didn't practice anything. All we did was put our arms around each other and rock & sway.

Totally going to wing it. We're both goofy, so having a goofy dance would be such an "us" thing.

FH has talked about taking lessons, but I think that's if he wants to do a special guys dance at the reception, like those viral videos you see.

We're just going to do whatever comes naturally. I don't want the first time I dance with my husband to be choreographed. Plus, we're not dancers by any means so it will be nice to just enjoy each other rather than worry about the moves.

We just went in circles and laughed during our first dance because I've three left feet. But my friends for their first dance did dance lessons to have a routine. Honestly it looked kind of fake :x ahah like just enjoy the moment together and not worry about taking perfect steps and being perfect, ya know?

We absolutely winged it. My husband hates to dance so we did it for a few minutes then the DJ asked others to join in. I decided it wasn’t something I was going to stress over.

I love non-choreographed dances! They're much more personal to me

Unless you have your heart set on a choreographed dance, I wouldn't worry about taking lessons. Do a few practice runs with each other, but otherwise just let it be natural. If you do want a choreographed dance, I'd recommend taking the same kind of dance lessons apart, and trying to practice together. Having the basic knowledge of the steps should be enough to get you through.

Me personally, I would just wing it unless it's super important to you that you take a dance class!

Could you both learn something simple like ballroom/waltzing/something similar on your own and then whenever you meet you can combine your moves to make sure it flows?

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Thanks. I'm definitely not stressing or trying not to stress. I know FH mentioned something about taking lessons, but I'm just sure how that will work out for us being so far away. I keep joking that we are going to have to dance with a balloon between our heads - we went to a cultural night at our work and was playing a game.

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Gotcha. That's probably what we will end up doing. Trying to figure out how to make it work without any lessons.

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FH definitely mentioned about taking lessons. I asked him how that work since there are distances between us, but that is all he said. He is definitely goofy, so I could see us doing something kind of crazy. But not anything viral.

Hope your dance is fantastic.

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Definitely understandable. I want to enjoy the moment as well. But I also would like thinks to flow smoothly, especially since we haven't really danced together that much (1 game and 2 weddings).

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Knowing my FH and me, we will probably be talking and laughing during the dance. And probably stepping on each other. I just kind of want to have a few dance practices with each since we haven't truly danced with each other.

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That's a great idea. Maybe I can coordinate to have something similar where we dance together for a bit then open the dance floor.

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I definitely don't have anything special in mind. Just would prefer to have a few basic steps in mind that we could do and just have fun.

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We could definitely probably learn some of the basics and practice together. But I don't think my FH would have the motivation to try to learn on his own. I just want to make sure whatever we do flows or doesn't look completely awkward.

That moment is just about the two of you celebrating one of your many firsts as a married couple. No need to stress yourselves more. Choose a short song or speak with the DJ about not leaving you out there for too long and just dance like you're in high school again. Sounds corny but it has worked all this time for a reason. Most likely you'll be chatting and laughing about all the little moments you experienced earlier in the day and won't be focused on the movement anyway. Enjoy!

We are kind of in the same situation. We thought about lessons or just practicing one weekend when we are together but we just have too much other stuff going on. We are winging it. Probably just swaying back and forth for 30 seconds haha.