Got married this past Friday, May 17th. The planning process was soooooo stressful and not enjoy able at all (Lost soooo much weight, dress had to be taken in so much---not a completely bad thing . So glad the planning is over.
The day of....I was very nervous leading up to the day. I do not like being the center of attention but couldn't avoid it.
CONS/Stuff that went wrong
Bridal Party- my bridal party has been very frustrating way before the wedding. Well the day of they did not stop. 1 got her hair done from my stylist and was so opinionated and difficult getting her hair done. Didn't want tight curls but the stylist said they will drop and wasn't planning to spray them as much as mine. Hair was done at 12 wedding at 4. Plenty of time for the hair to drop. 2 bridesmaids did their own hair and makeup before arriving. The photographer took the typical staged dresses shot and then told them they could get dressed. 1 was freaking out about the short amount of time given to get dressed....you already had hair and MU done and your dress was a lot easier to get into then mine. Then came pictures with them....they were never ready to take the pictures. They were all at one point all in my hotel bathroom touching up their MU and fussing with their dresses. When they finally were ready they were messing around and not listening to the photographer. I hate pictures and just wanted them done quickly. They made me more upset and stressed...total opposite than what is expected. We went off site for pictures. All piled into my SUV. I asked 1 girl to drive, she had 6 inch platform stilettos on. She had to take them off to drive. Not 1 of them helped me get in or out of the car with my big dress and bouquet. 2 complained about having to walk in/on the grass at the park (I walked in the same grass with my white wedding dress with long train, I didn't complain once). The girl with the shoes took them off to walk but then took her sweet time putting them back on for the pics. She could have just stayed barefoot or brought other shoes, she knew we were going to a park. Another 1 was practically smoking a pack of cigs....its like she was the 1 getting/got married. We got ready to go back to the venue and again no help from them getting in or out (my husband helped then, but he got out of the car he was in when he saw them do nothing). Oh I also forgot, the normal fluff the dress job of the BM/MOH didn't get done. Looking at the pics and asking guests they said none of my BM or MOH even tried to fluff/fix my dress. I also got the dress bustled by the catering coordinator. They didn't even try or ask. They got to the cocktail hour and just went to socialize. At the reception I barely saw them. Got help from my husband the 1st time needing to use the bathroom, then got my boss who attended to help me all the other times. So that was a bit upsetting. I don't think I will have the same relationship with them after this.
Dress/veil - I had so much trouble with the dress leading up to the wedding. Altered once, then altered 1 week before bc the 1st alteration was done wrong. Well my dress fit great. My veil came off the comb in the hotel before the ceremony during pics. I threw it on the bed and said we can fix it after the prelim pics in the courtyard before the ceremony...thank god I brought a hit glue gun to the hotel. 2 of my bustles broke on my dress as the woman was doing it. I at that point didn't care. As long as most of it was up I was good. I was a pretty laidback bride. It is what it is.
Photographer/videographer - soooooo many pictures and annoying. Same shot over and over again and in uncomfortable positions. I hated them both before we even got to the ceremony.
No Shows - we had a few no shows...the only one I really noticed was a friend I have known most of my life. Very upsetting he did not come and his reason was BS. He was the only text I sent that day asking where he was. He claimed he got the days mixed up and thought it was sunday. We talked almost 1 -2 times a week for many months before the wedding and then he went dark about month and half before. He knew how stressed and nervous I was and at the time was a great support. My mother also loved him and he would make her feel comfortable. I truly believe he didn't come bc he couldn't see me marry someone else. I went to his 1st wedding and then he got married again and still is. He really needed to suck it up and be there. He has known me since I was 15 and treated me like a sister until I grew up a bit then he wanted to date me. It was the situation of he was married I was single, he was divorced I was involved. We never linked up and I am glad we didn't. Well I am so hurt I know that relationship is also different.
My family- my mother and I had some very rough moments leading up. At 1 point she said she didn't have a daughter and would come as a guest not my mother. Well it was awkward for sure but she did do what she was expected to do. She did the pictures. Other than that she sat at the table with 3 of my brothers and did not talk to anyone. It was a table mostly filled with unhappy, uncomfortable people.
Ceremony - weather was great...was a chance of rain but we really lucked out. I was very nervous about walking down the aisle and being center of attention but my cute little nephews relaxed me a little before and my brother walking me down was more nervous than me so that calmed me too. I was worried about being a crying mess but only had 1 tear fall at the end of the aisle joining my soon to be husband.
Cocktail/Reception - food was great, drinks were great, flowers and centerpieces everyone loved and were fighting over who got to take home ( we did a centerpiece giveaway predicting this) Our first dance I was worried about went perfect. A lot of guests have said one of the best weddings they have been to.
I know the pros seem light but the cons needed more explanation. I couldn't have asked for a better day!!!!! I at first could not wait til the day was over but in the moment at the reception I did not want it to end. It truly does go by so fast. I am so happy to be married to my husband and can now relax and enjoy married life.