Finally got a thank you note....

That is a very late thank you... I guess they were waiting until they got the wedding photo back? It doesn't take that long to write a proper thank you.

Ew. I hate this kinda stuff.

I'm already feeling guilty for not starting my TYs and we just got back from the HM Monday!

OMG, why bother?! I got one of these last year, minus the hand written note on the back. Just a picture of the couple with a photo-shopped thank you.

We gave them $200 cash for their present because we didn't have to travel. I threw the picture right into the garbage, it was so thoughtless.

Same, Elyse! It took me a couple of weeks after I was back from the honeymoon and I felt awful.

@futureMrsbrbr they had the pictures back really soon after the wedding. The bride's friend was her photographer.

A few weeks is nothing Katy & Elyse....6 month is a different story. 3 months is even okay....more than the timing, it was the lack of thought....the lack of acknowledgement of our effort to be with them for their day or of the generous gift we gave.

Oh wow. Just wow. I strongly dislike the photo thank you notes. I don't care how fabulous your wedding was...very few people want a picture of you on the thank you note. They just want to be thanked, and they don't want to wait so long that they forgot you even got married.

We got one 11 months after the gift was sent. The bride said she was waiting for the photographer's photos. I though it odd, because the bride posted a link to their photographer's preview, a few months after the wedding. (We also spent almost $5k, for coast to coast flights for 4, 2 hotel rooms, rental car, meals etc.)

I said we because my parents and sister and I and our spouses went together ($600) to send a gift and they sent one thank you, addressed to our family. (We own 3 separate homes).

We were originally surprised we got 3 separate invitations. When the groom's sister married, a few years before, we got one "family" invitation, mailed to our parents.

That's terrible! I had them out within 2-3 weeks after the wedding. I was waiting for some pro pictures to include in the thankyou card but each card was hand written and a decent amount of writing was put in. 6 months is frustrating to no end

My SIL waited 2 months to send back thank yous for her wedding and nearly 2 for her baby shower that she literally got 8,000 worth of stuff off of if not more from family.... Its not about the gift or the price, but seriously it doesn't take 2 months to send a thank you. do 10 a night and you're golden.

I just realized I haven't gotten thank you cards from any wedding's I've gone to in the last 2 years. Humm.

@beachbabe....you win! Are people really just not grateful, or just lazy?

I'm still waiting for a thank you from my cousin's bridal shower and wedding in 2013 lol. I also attended a friend's wedding in May and no thank you yet. And we are both teachers, so I know she had all summer to write those things if she really wanted to. *shrug* Oh well.

I just got a similar thank you card exactly one year from a wedding I attended. It was also a photo collage (just candid phone camera pics) with the thank you typed across. Oh well. I'm the worst at sending thank you's so I wasn't tooo offended.

So people dont actually like the photo thank yous? I thought they were cute *throws idea in trash can*

My younger brother got married over a year ago. I flew across the country, spent one whole day helping to make pies, spent another chunk of a day setting up for then tearing down his RD, gave a substantial monetary gift-- nothing. I agree the "Super Generic note" is a slap in the face, but I'm torn about whether it's actually *worse*. Then again, now that we're 14 months out from his wedding, I don't think I have to worry. Clearly I'm getting the 'no YT at all" note. Deep breath. Let it go. I didn't do any of it for a frickin' piece of mail.....

That's terrible! There is nothing wrong with a wedding photo on a thank you card, but the card needs to have a personal note and be sent within 3 months of the wedding.

Emily Post says three months max for TY notes but Miss Manners strongly disagrees (and I'm with her on this one). This is a great link:

http://articles.chicagotribune.com/1988-03-09/entertainment/8804050822_1_wedding-gifts-time-limit-brides

For those who can't click link:

Yes, There`s A One-year Rule About Wedding Gifts -

But It`s Not The One You May Be Hoping For.

March 09, 1988|By Judith Martin.

Dear Miss Manners-A June bride of my acquaintance tells me she has not yet acknowledged any of her wedding gifts, and that Miss Manners gives one year as the time limit.

I think you have been misquoted. I have checked in your books and can find no reference to this, although I may have missed it. Common sense tells me two months should be the absolute limit.

Gentle Reader-Misquoted? Miss Manners has been slandered.

It is a popular young brides` tale (as opposed to an old wives` tale)

that one can take up to a year writing thank-you letters for wedding presents. This is not true, and never has been. Thank-you notes are due right after presents are received. Ten minutes after would be a good time, but the absolute maximum, barring severe illness, divorce or absence from the planet, is two weeks.

The true one-year rule in connection with wedding presents is one that brides don`t seem to care for. It is that these presents may be sent up to a year following the wedding. Efficient people, who have kindly sent prompt presents only to find that the marriage is in danger by the time they are received, might do well to take advantage of this leeway.

@So.Many.Questions--- I love photo thank you cards! BUT, there should be a handwritten thoughtful note with it. It shouldn't just be a generic "thank you." Everyone that went out of their way to attend your wedding deserves to be written a personalized note.

In no way is 2 weeks feasible for most people. Some people go on a HM for 10-14 days after the wedding. I would never expect someone to tote their stationary along and spend their HM writing TYs.