Fights with the fiance

We've been fighting too but usually just when stressed out. Pre-marital counseling has helped the fights to be more productive and more like disagreements than fighting.

I try to think "will this matter in a year? 5? 10? Will I even remember what we fought about a month from now?" If it isn't something that signifies a bigger issue, we let it go now.

Have you actually talked to him at all? Go on a date, have fun, talk to each other, fuck it out, reconnect.

FH and I are a little under 2 months out and the tension has been higher in our home as well. Little disagreements, not all out arguments... I'm chalking it up to stress on both our parts. We just have a lot going on and adding a fairly short engagement, and a lot of planning on top of our own crazy life, has started to take it's toll.

I made sure that we just talked wedding one night a week. That might help

We aren't there yet. I think we just haven't had to do a lot of planning yet. I'm sure it will come though! FMIL told me when her and FFIL got engaged, they had fought more during that time than as long as they've been married. I think it's just a natural reaction to stress and anxiety.

FH and I got through phases of "fighting" and by fighting I mean I am extra stressed out and get super mad about dumb things and he says I'm sorry let me rub your feet.

Let the little things go. Fighting happens for every couple while you're planning a wedding, it's normal. We get stressed and then they get stressed, just remember you're getting married to the person you're fighting with... It just a wedding!

FH and I also feel like we've been bickering a lot lately. However, we have both gotten SO much better at communicating with one another, that we can talk things out and then just need a good date night

After something similar I explained to my fiancé being supportive, understanding, listening and helping are really all I need during this crazy ass time.

He took me quite literally and at least daily is saying "I understand" "how can I help you" "I'm sorry you're stressed" just those little phrases calm me down and prevent an argument, wedding related or not. Cause really right now every little things feels wedding related

Ahhh...one of the leading reasons for marital discord is...wait for it...financial stress. If you don't settle on common ground (with all of its rules), you could end up on different sides of the courtroom with strangers talking about both of you as if you weren't even there. Sometimes, that's a bonding experience, lol.

It sucks. You're both on the same team, but for some reason, you're fighting each other. You have to focus on being a team. Always, always remember that you are a team. It's more than a cliche -- it will save you because, most likely, you will run into big financial issues in your marriage. Someone has an accident with an uninsured motorist, one of you loses you job which depletes your income by 50%, you can't come up with the mortgage or the gas and electric payment...who are you going to vent on? You'll vent on the person who can't say, "I don't have to listen to that kind of talk. I'm hanging up." You'll vent on the person you married, and that person will vent on you.

The absolute best thing I can advise, even if your credit is good, is to go to couple's financial counseling. You will learn so much, and what you learn will transcend money.

If you're overspending on the wedding, remember this (and I say it all the time) -- your guests want good food, good alcohol, and good entertainment. They won't focus on your carefully crafted DIY projects (they'll say, "that's cute", but not much more), or your flowers (I never suggest a couple spend money on flowers instead of the wedding trifecta I just laid out), or your red soled shoes.

I'm in the same boat. The petty disagreements..not staying mad long. And I'm feeling overwhelmed by all this..the budget..just making sure/hoping everything falls into place properly

It's hard to avoid little arguments before the wedding, it just adds stress to everyday life. As long as you come together to realize that you love each other you should be fine. I think it's pretty normal to have disagreements. My fiance and I set aside a certain amount of time to talk wedding stuff....because it can certainly be overwhelming.

In the same situation it can be about the dumbest stuff. We don't stay mad for long or anything. I think it's just the stress and also our job has been hectic so it doesn't help. We try to make Thursday our day since we both have off and that helps.

It's happening to us too and it is all so stupid. I'm so glad you posted this because I thought it was just us. His mom and I finished all our hotel welcome bags last night and brought them home and he freaked out when he saw how much more stuff we had. I know he is just very stressed about the cost of everything and he is just ready for the day to be here. 3 more days...

I think it's normal when you are spending lots of $$ and making lots of big decisions about an important event for there to be more tension and bickering between couples. You really need to keep the lines of communication open. Remember, you are on the same side! Don't take your stress out on each other.

I'm so glad I'm not the only one doing this! We're 79 days away from the wedding, but we've been fighting for the past two or so weeks over the STUPIDEST things. I think the stress is finally hitting us and that's what I keep blaming it on.

Definitely just make some time for the two of you to relax / decompress. Have date night and stick to the rule that you aren't allowed to talk about the wedding! You'll get through this, hang in there!

We did, but it was really dumb little fights.

Mainly about me being too stressed out and being a bitch in general (he's never told me that, this is me admitting to that lol), pissy about all of the money being spent instead of on other things, wanting to just elope, not wanting to do dumb stuff.

Mainly a lot of it was just stress and taking it out on each other. And then later admitting that was what we did, apologizing, and didn't go to bed angry.

This didn't happen for us, but I have heard its normal.

I did pick a few arguments due to stress and honestly my husband shut them down pretty quick and talked to me about it. I noticed what I was doing didn't make sense and had to have a day where I just cut it all off and got myself together.