Fights with the fiance

We have been fighting a lot more too! It is mostly dumb stuff and we don't stay mad for long. Try to set aside some time if you can for each other and don't worry about the wedding. Go to dinner or catch a movie do something that will give you a quick break.

I think this is normal.... So I've been told... FH and I are having the silliest spats here and there.

Same here. We set aside a chunck of time on the weekends to talk wedding plans so that FH knows he needs to be focused on it for only so long and that seems to ease his stress over it... On the flip side we also plan something fun that is non wedding related every weekend (dinner, movie, netflix binge marathons, etc).

Id say it's normal. Especially if it's just wedding stuff. We had a quite a few fights but we've been fine since the wedding! Tension is just high. I think everything will balance out soon.

This did not happen to us, but I do know it's a normal thing. You still have some time. Maybe step back from wedding planning for a little bit, and dedicate a weekend to the two of you as a couple.

It is really hard to do this when you have so much on your plates, but how about setting aside some wedding-free evenings every couple of weeks. Take a night to clear your heads, maybe have a little date night (doesn't have to cost anything if you're busy saving) so that you remember what the stress and planning is all leading up to. Even if you can't go out on a date maybe take a walk or make some nice cocktails together, or just have a night in where no wedding talk is allowed, to give you two a chance to let go of wedding worries and check in with each other. It's always good to remind yourself why you are marrying your partner!

Finally a date twin! I hadn't found one yet! We are doing the same :/ it sucks but we are trying to take some time to ourselves when we can just hasn't happened much lately. Open communication is good that helps us a lot

FH and I don't really fight it's more like I nag.

DH and I didn't really fight, but I noticed in hindsight there was a lot of tension in the apartment. My older dog started acting up to the point where we had to send him to live with my mom a bit. Right after the wedding, we decided to try keeping him again, and he's completely back to normal.

Definitely try to make wedding-free time for the two of you. During planning, I did what a pp suggested and had a wedding planning session each week. The rest of the time, I'd make notes to myself on my phone of things I wanted to bring up or discuss with him. He knew that time was wedding time, so he was more focused and involved, but not overloaded with information all the time. Also, if there was something that my husband felt strongly about, I usually let him have it since it was his wedding too.

My Fiancé and I have been getting in such stupid spats! I think it's because I'm stressed and overwhelmed with school and planning so I just get irritated easily! I try to just take a breath and realize it's my worth fighting over!

This week, we've both been pretty stressed. So, I haven't seen us fighting a lot more, but we both are a lot more irritable. I think I've had a constant headache for the last month, so that probably adds to it.

But, the one thing we've been working on is just taking time out to just relax and hang out and I think that's helped us from snapping at each other!

I've been experiencing the same thing. We got engaged, bought our first house, and started planning a wedding all around the same time. I think there is just a lot more stress to deal with than we were used to - house projects, wedding projects, different opinions on those things, budgeting, etc. I find that what helps most is getting away from it all on the weekends. We will go for a long hike or kayak trip and reconnect. It has been super helpful and gets us back to why we are doing all of this planning.

Yeah I think its normal. I mean you have new stuff to worry about: budgeting for a big party, compromising on wedding stuff, dealing with more than usual input from family, planning stress.

I think it's normal to have small fights here and there. Are you sticking to the budget and plan? I found that that has really helped with FH and i. We did a 22 month long engagement to make sure we didn't get stressed out saving money. Everything was booked super early so we could plan accordingly with budget. My dress and wedding band has cost slightly over budget but we paid those off right away and both agreed it was okay. Now we are back on track. Woosahhhh and try and set aside just time for the two of you without the stresses of wedding planning! Good luck!

I am not there yet, but it sounds like its normal. We are still a year off but I do see that we are at edge about wedding stuff. There is so much to do. Take a step back, forget the pressures of the wedding. Remember that all this that you are stressing about is for that one of a kind love you two have for one another and bring that back as your focus. Take a weekend just for the two of you. No wedding discussion. Best of luck to you both!

Am I the only one that doesn't think it's normal to suddenly be having loads of fights?

Pinpoint the real cause of the stress and stop taking it out on each other. You're not rivals, you're a team.

We fought a lot more the closer the wedding got. And we never fight. IT was just wedding stress. I would suggest date night with no wedding talk. And it all stopped once we got married. I think the stress just gets to you without realizing it.

Agree with Boozy.

Find the trigger and work on communication together.

Definitely take time for the two of you together whatever it you enjoy doing, rediscover it and get back to it.

Same here. Im sure part of it is stress building as the day gets closer. Have some wine, breath and relax!

I'd say it's normal. We've only had a few I'd really consider a fight, but they seemed to be one after the other. It usually just boils down to communication issues. We're excited to have started our pre-marital course and also picked up a couple of books on our own to work through. (for men only and for women only). On top of making sure we are setting aside 1 night a week for just us with no wedding planning or talk. the budget is pretty tight so these mostly end up being binge watching HIMYM and GoT and popcorn. Or movie nights too. Just extra tension and stress. Take a deep breath. You're a week closer than I am!

ETA:it's been especially stressful since we just got engaged at the beginning of May.