Fiance's sister

Go with your gut. Don’t invite her. We aren’t inviting either of his two sisters to our wedding 😊

I wouldn't invite her but I wanted to add that I would also call CPS. "Family is family" my a**. I am adopting through fost-adopt because of this very reason.. it's unsettling for people to think about children being removed from their homes but it is more unsettling for me to imagine them being abused there. (I'm sure you all have done what you can already I just had to add that)

I hope you have a wonderful wedding day!

Everyone has already said this but if CPS wasn’t called already that would be super sad.

We didn't invite one of my husband's brothers because he does heroin. He's stolen his mother's jewelry and pawned it and it can't be proven but he most likely broke into his dad and step mom's house. I didn't want to have to worry about him stealing cards or stealing from my family/friends. Apparently another brother of my husband's was mad about the decision, but it was the right one for us. I wouldn't invite your future sister in law or her family to the wedding. If there isn't a CPS investigation into her and her abuse you might want to contact them.

That should be your fiancés Choice, not yours. If in fact she abused her children, then I would be surprised if she showed up. I would think she would get a cold shoulder from many family members.
My future MIL & FIL are 100 percent cool with their grandchild’s mom. She left their grandchild in a car overnight when he was 6 or 7 so she could party. She would allow her boyfriends to beat him. Beatings were never so severe that he had to be hospitalized or anything like that. All this happed about 15 years ago, but they are cool with the grandchild’s mom and treat her better than me lol.

I agree with your decision. Family is family but if his sister agreed with that they wouldn't be doing what they are.

Everything about this day is supposed to be special, drama free and all about you and your FH. If there are people family or not that will create drama leave them out! There is a big portion of my family not being invited simply because drama is their jam and I'm not dealing with it. Enjoy your day.

And yes if haven't already done so get the authorities involved.

Agree with PP! Do not invite them. I hope CPS/ police action has been taken.

FH decided to cut out a whole branch of his family tree because they are literally INSANE. I support his decision, and his mom was sad but did agree. The last time I saw one of those family members (a cousin), she was having a real life jump-up-and-down temper tantrum because she wasn't getting enough attention at a family function (she's in her mid-20's, and the family function was a FUNERAL)... There's some people, family or not, that you just don't need at your wedding.

Bailee, please let us know if kids are being taken care of. We are all worried for them.

We are in this exact same boat only it's his younger sister. And also they've decided to go live in a tent in the middle of no where so what am I supposed to do, invite them via smoke signals? I'd say stick to your guns, girl. You don't need that in your life and you definitely do not need it on your wedding day. Family might be family but child abuse and neglect has no place in it, at least in my opinion. Anyone who isn't paying for our wedding can just go you know what themselves if they think we're not making the right choice.

It's your wedding, not your future MIL's. If you both really don't want her and her husband there then you shouldn't have to invite them. It's your day to do your way, and if you aren't close to her and don't want to be around her I wouldn't invite her. Why put a damper on your day? My FH is deciding on inviting all his siblings or not due to family drama.

Someone on here once told me to "invite them inspite of what they've done." If they don't show up, it's on them. But if they do, be cordial with them and thank them for attending.

The situation I had was inviting one friend, but not his new fiance. He had cheated on his wife who is also our friend and then turned around and got engaged right after the divorce. We don't want this other chick there causing problems. But we have to be supportive regardless.... we have to invite this girl because it is important to our friend. If it is important to FH's family that his sister is invited, then do it because it could cause more problems down the road if you don't.

I've always hated that saying "Family is Family" has never actually held up in my opinion. Invite who you want there. No more, no less.

We are having the exact same situation with my FI's brother. Eventually it came to a head when his parents cornered us and it caused him to have a fully-blown panic attack that ended up having physical repercussions. While he was in a different room, I asked them if they REALLY loved their other son so much that they would force this son to ruin his own wedding day? Because this reaction would happen again. They haven't brought it up since.

Abuse is ABUSE. Inviting them "because his family wants it" is no good reason. He doesn't want her there, you dont want her there, and what she's doing to her children is not ok. Inviting her would say that its ok in your minds that she does this to her children, because you are willing to invite her. To me, that kind of treatment toward anyone would make them unwelcome to me. Again, the way I see it, Abuse is Abuse.

We are having a similar issue with my aunt... I despise being around her and refuse to speak to her. My father is asking me to invite her because it isn't worth the family drama and upsetting my grandmother. It is more important to me to make my grandmother happy then the annoyance of having this one person there. Ultimately, I figure she probably won't come. I am probably in opposition to many people here in this. If I were you, I would save yourself the headache and family drama and just invite them. Is it worth it to you to disrupt the fun and create drama on their side of the family because of one couple? They most likely won't come because they will know it is a "sympathy" invitation and that they really aren't wanted. If you don't have a relationship with them either, they are less likely to come. Then it is on them, and not you.

View Quoted Comment It's only unsettling if it's the loving kind.

Invite who matters.

Bottom line, it's your wedding regardless of the other situation. I didn't invite one of my FH sister because she's an active user and was in and out of jail. Personally did not want that kind of energy anywhere near me. You made the right move.