My Fiance has decided that he is not going to invite his older sister to our wedding. I fully support his decision. We refuse all contact with her and her husband after we found out they were abusing their children. His mother is insisting we invite her because, "Family is family". My family and I fully support this decision. Does anyone think this is the right move for us or should we invite them?
I wouldn’t invite them either. It’s not your FMIL decision on who you do or don’t include in your lives. And family is family is bull. Being family isn’t a free pass to be an awful person and be in someone’s life always just because you’re related.
There are several members of my family that I’m not inviting as well as his. His step brother will not be invited to the wedding due to his actions. Short story short he’s been trying to get my sister to send pictures to him even tho he has a girlfriend and when i called him out on it with picture proof he called me a liar and saying i need to mind my business and stuff🤷🏻♀️ Obviously my sister is in the wedding and that’s just drama i don’t want to deal with. You invite who YOU want as for their children’s safety i would 100000% calls CPS
Got my vote. I'm not inviting my brother or my dad. It's your wedding and you and your FH should decide who is invited, not anyone else.
It's your wedding. We have family were not inviting. Stick with your decision.
I’m not inviting my little brother, it can be hard cutting family out but sometimes it’s necessary. Long story short my brother is a bigot and prone to aggression and gets in fights constantly over literally nothing and he’s a alcoholic. I can’t have someone toxic like that in my life or at my wedding, my dad offered to pay for him to come to the wedding but I told him that my brother won’t be invited. Dad is sad about it but understands my reservations. By brother has been like a stranger for years now.
More important—If you suspect that there is abuse happening in the family, you need to contact CPS immediately. Do not wait to discuss with fiance, family, or anyone else. (Maybe you’ve already done this, couldn’t tell from your post.)
Yes, in your case it's the right decision not to invite her.
We're dealing with a similar dilemma. But my finance's sister did a good deal of raising him when he was a kid, and both his parents died when he was young. She's made terrible choices in her life since, but he's conflicted on inviting her.
Follow your heart Bailee...
Nope, no, nope, nope nope.....
I cut out a portion of my family for a similar reason. They are not invited. You are making the right decision for you and FH. If FMIL doesn't get it, she doesn't have to. She can invite her to any party she wishes. This isn't her party.
Uhhh....please call children protective services. If she is abusing her children, and y'all know about, and aren't doing anything about it...that's just as bad. And no, don't invite her....she should be in jail, or worse!!