Fiancé's 15 year old sister as bridesmaid?

My FH has 4 sisters there is no way I could have asked one or two and not all of them so all four will be in our wedding. Even if you are not that close with her now this could help you to grow closer.

Maybe ask her to be a junior bridesmaid. That way she can still feel involved

I wouldn't! I would be annoyed having an uneven bridal party, as it seems you would be too! My fw has 2 sisters, and I'm actually a little closer to the littlest that is 21. My fw asked her eldest sister to be her MOH. Her 2 daughters are our bridesmaids. My sister is my MOH. Her 21 year old sister is not going to be in the wedding at all, and it doesn't seem like her feelings are hurt at all either. Her son though, is going to be our ring bearer. Also something to think about. If you have an underage bridesmaids there are going to be some places she can't go for the bachelorette party. And would that hurt her feelings later on. You could even use that as an excuse not to include her in the bridal party. If you are having "all adults" in your bridal party.

The reason I have to choose between the two is because my FH and I have decided to have a wedding party of 6. We do not want a wedding party larger than that. An uneven number would also really bother me. The bachelorette party is also another issue. Although I do not plan on doing anything too crazy for my bachelorette party, I would not want her to be there. Not because I dislike her, but because I think it is inappropriate. I am confident two of my other bridesmaids will be drunk by the end of the night and the conversations that will happen that night should not be heard by a 15 year old. As for my FMIL, my FH said he thinks it will bother her. I could see it bothering her a little bit but I do not think she would make a big deal about it.

Your bridesmaids should be YOUR people that YOU cherish. no one out of obligation. give her another task if you really want to not upset FMIL.

While I quite agree with the 'ask to be nice' contingent, you should also keep in mind what kind of kid she is-- some 15 y.o.s are absurdly self-conscious and would "rather die" than stand up in front of a crowd. Since you're close with one sister, ask her how she thinks her sister would feel being left out. Her sister might be relieved, for all you know!

I would say yes, but you could also run it by the sister that you are close with and see if the 15 yo sister has shown any interest in being a BM

Ask her to be a junior bridesmaid. Her age will not allow her to fully participate in the shower and bachelorette party but it would be a special gesture to have her included as part of the wedding party.

I don't think you are required to ask her at all, but I wanted to add that my sister will be 14 at our wedding (there are 17 years between us but we are still super close) and she will stand up as a bridesmaid. Of course, she won't be coming to the bachelorette

Wanted to add we are having an uneven BP, as I wouldn't ask my FH to add people just to make it even. It should definitely be your most important people. That being said, FH's sister will be a bridesmaid, but I wanted her to be. It felt appropriate for us.

My sister told me flat-out she did not really want her SIL as a bridesmaid and yet she "sacrificed" a friend to give SIL the shot. "You have to do what you have to do- you are joining a family, so you've got to do what brings the family together." I agreed with her about the family thing, but I refuse to compromise my sister, 2 cousins, or 2 best friends. So I ended up with a bridal party of 7 girls- those I mentioned, plus my much younger FSILs who will be 18 and 16. They will walk out as a pair because there are only 5 groomsmen.

You have to make the decision, but think about which will make you happy 20 years from now in pictures: an odd number of smiling faces, or a sister or friend missing?

I think it depends on the family and the sisters. For some people this matter for others it doesn't. FH has 7 sisters and only 1 is my bridesmaid. He also has 4 brothers and 1 is his Best Man. The others aren't in the wedding. I may only be having my little brother as an usher but not a spot for my older brothers.