So we were originally supposed to get married this past April, but due to COVID-19 we postponed our wedding just 30 days prior to our date. We were 30 days out in March when the first wave hit the US and closure began sweeping the Nation. Now we postponed to March 27, 2021 with the help of our wedding planners, all of our vendors were able to move to that date. At the time it seemed we postponed far enough out to have a resolution on COVID. We have deposits and other monies that were spent for the wedding that would be applied to the new date in 2021.
We originally planned a 250 person wedding, which will likely shrink to under 100 if the guidance continues in our state. Our wedding will be all outdoor and we plan to take the appropriate safety precautions. We originally wrote a clause in all of our contracts that if gatherings have to be limited to under 100 guest due to state or federal law we would be released from all remaining balances for our vendors.
We live across country from all of our family and friends in California while everyone else is scattered across the East or in TX.
As we grow closer to March 2021, my fiancé is suggesting we get married over the Christmas break. His reasoning is we do not know if by March 2021 it will be safe to gather as it was not the past March 2020. He wants to do a destination wedding in Hawaii just the two of us despite travel orders being increasingly stringent to enter the state.
This would also mean our parents could not attend due to travel restrictions, which is not a problem for anyone but my mother who has worked tirelessly with us to plan for our original date and to postpone until March 2021.
I totally understand my Fiancé's reasoning but cannot help wishing he came to his decision earlier with more time to plan for our families to at least be able to attend. I also struggle with what to do with our March 2021 date. We still have contractual agreements for a celebration on that day and some or our guests have confirmed for that date. He is skeptical that guests, mainly his family will attend due to the virus and travel safety.
He has his tux and I have my dress here in California I just don't know what to do. Apart of me wants to get married over Christmas to honor my fiancé wishes and still have a celebration in March with whomever feels comfortable to attend. I also know I will be rushing like crazy to prepare for travel to the wedding and it feels extremely chaotic to rush everything for a wedding in the next 15 days.
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