Fiancé wants his dad for best man

The moms can find their way down the aisle on their own, they don’t need an escort. The “proper” order would be SMOG, MOG, MOB, but you can do it however you’d like. I have no idea why you think FOG needs to switch ties, but he doesn’t.

View Quoted Comment The bridal party and the theme is blue. The dress the SMOG is purple or supposedly purple. It looks like maroon to be honest. If he’s standing up there he should match the bridal party color. My maid of honor is blue.

I think you are overthinking this. His mom and step-dad would walk down the aisle together as they are a couple. His step-mom could be escorted by a close male relative such as her own son (if she has one), your fiance's brother (if he has one), or any other male relative she is close to. As for your mom, I would also have her walk down the aisle with a close male relative.

As for the tie and pocket square, there is no reason he would need to switch. I think you are making that way too over complicated. My dad the was best man in my brother's wedding. He wore a grey tux with navy tie, vest and pocket square while my mom wore a purple dress. It looked completely fine and no one thought anything of it. There is no reason that they need to be matchy matchy. Purple/maroon are very pretty paired with navy so just relax and let him wear the navy and her wear the purple/maroon. If you want to try to tie it more together have corsages for each mom including the step-mom and have her flowers be blue and purple.

View Quoted Comment Right. He’s in the wedding party, so he wears the wedding party colors. That’s it. No need to switch.

View Quoted Comment My ceremony and reception is split already. So yeah that’s why he’s having both. So once they take pictures with us my mom made boutonniere and corsages for them and she made it maroon.


The thing is we are going to not wear masks so I rather have less people not wearing a mask up there.
So yeah I have very critical people I honestly don’t want hear any more. I had put a piece of paper in my invites and my aunt calls me up over a “spelling error” so I tell you right now I will be really grumpy on my wedding day if I hear any critical information. I’m unhappy to get so close to my wedding and have to move my venue to some other day that means nothing to me. I’m happy to wear my dress again as long as my form fitting dress fits the 2nd time.

View Quoted Comment He bought the maroon one. My fiancé getting him the blue one. Since the split of the venue and ceremony he can wear his maroon one. Maroon for when he’s with his wife.

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I don't understand your response because no one said anything about having to wear masks. I also don't know what you mean by split. I'm guessing you mean the ceremony one day and the reception the next. If that's the case, it sounds like you are making him rent a suit or tux both time which is expensive enough without having to get two different colored ties and pocket squares.

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I have no idea what you're trying to say here.

View Quoted Comment Ceremony and venue isn’t the same day. That’s what I’m saying. The aren’t expensive bow ties and pocket squares are on amazon together. My fiancé is renting tux 2x because places don’t care that it’s not our choice. Absolutely not our fault it’s split. Venue canceled because of the virus. We are lucky to still have our day for ceremony.

View Quoted Comment It’s 2 different days the ceremony and venue. Venue canceled since no indoor dining. So one day he’s blue by my FH and other day he’s maroon or whatever.


It’s not my choice to split it we wanted it on our day but the indoor dining isn’t open.

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Then I'm not sure why you asked for opinion if you are just going to do whatever you want anyways.

View Quoted Comment And for the masks for our ceremony our guests have to wear them for the church. I already told the priest that for walking down the aisle for pictures anyone walking down won’t wear masks because of the photographer. So less people walking down the better.

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I have no clue how that has anything to do with your original post. Personally, I think wearing masks should be up to the person walking down the aisle. Also, guests could easily be seen in the photos wearing masks. I know our state mandating masks in orders for everyone including in churches so this wouldn't be an option.

View Quoted Comment To see what other people say for it because my FH doesn’t quite understand. People just don’t quite understand why I say for him to switch when it’s 2 different days for the party and ceremony.


There’s nothing wrong with seeing what people say about it and I decide what to do.

View Quoted Comment It’s just add in to my original post about the masks. I figured it wasn’t needed. Our states are different. Church is ok with my choices. I talked to the priest and will again at rehearsal

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I think your fiance is right it this insistence. I don't think it makes much sense to have his father change even if it is two different days. Also, are you expecting everyone to wear the same exact outfits twice because the moms could decide they don't want to wear the same dress twice. Will you also be having the maid of honor and the moms have their hair and makeup done twice because again that could be expensive. Personally, I would have continued to look for a venue to hold your reception on the same day.

View Quoted Comment I’m saying he has no clue at all about the wedding having his father up there since he been to his sister wedding only. Both sister and his brother in law had a big party.


All the moms want to wear their dresses again gets to use them 2x worth the money then.
His father bought his tux. Guess it was a better deal then renting it. My dad got his from his job.
Since my mom made the corsages and boutonniere they loved her work on it and that’s most likely why they don’t mind wearing it twice. I don’t mind wearing my dress twice either.

To each their own. That’s why I asked for opinions on it. To see what other ladies say. I know men match their wives. So it’s really just opinion. I really want to try to make pictures in the album look you know similar and not funny. Especially since photos aren’t cheap. So walking down aisle no masks. It’s just a weird time anyway with this virus just makes more work more stress.

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I don't understand what he needs to really know. His dad would walk down the aisle and stand up there with him that sounds pretty simple to me. I'm not sure what else you think he needs to know.

What about hair and makeup? Are you also hiring the photographer to be at both the ceremony and reception because that sounds rather expensive?

View Quoted Comment He thinks his father can walk his wife down then come stand up with him. When the best man usually stands next to the groom. He doesn’t want to be alone standing up there, but he will be alone if his father walks his wife down the aisle. That’s why I asked who would walk the moms down.


I have to get my hair and makeup done 2x yup it’s expensive. Thankfully my photographer is good she splitting the days up.