Fiance stressing about money

Have you guys set a budget to stick to? Has he seen the prices of some vendors to compare and understand the reasonably priced ones? Does he really want to spend a ton of money on a wedding to start with?

I side-bared this by having a budget lined out for every vendor ahead of time. My husband began researching the expenses for any item he didn't agree with, but then would ultimate agree on the budget. The only time it came back around was for the caterer, but that time it was me saying we were going well above what we should - he said "but we've saved so much elsewhere!" ... he won.

View Quoted Comment We did this too! It helped a lot.

My FH spent a little over $10k on my engagement ring, so I made $10k my budget for the wedding and am paying for it myself. Well, my father is helping, but I don't expect my fiancé to contribute as I feel he did his part! So we don't argue about costs at all since it's all on me lol.

Like PPs said, talk to FH and agree on a budget! This can drastically reduce financial stress if you're both on the same page

We agreed on a budget before calling vendors and look over them together.

No flat out arguments, but he is definitely one to shop around. Once he figured out we are on the low end of the spectrum wedding wise he calmed down.

He has flat out said no to a few things...the videographer for one, but he realizes that I'm definitely working with him on trying to come in at budget...or under🙏🤞

He probably has sticker shock like my fiancee, because they are clueless how much a wedding actually costs.

I hope it gets better for you!
Hang in there!❤

I've gotten a bit of tittering about certain line items but we've outlined a budget well enough that he knows where all the money is going and what the plan is. Luckily we're both pretty much on the same page budget wise, neither of us wants to go over.

I'm the fiance that's doing that ahah and I'm also the one planning everything so it's really me that's saving us more money ahah. But I understand how it can be annoying because sometimes you just want to get something good that's reasonable and not be bothered by not having found the cheapest possible deal.
We set out a budget and I've done my best with keeping at it and I've done my best with being as economical as possible while having it look and function nice enough. I think it's also like if that's a part of someone's personality. For instance I'm way more frugal than my fiance is so my mindset was already like that to begin with.

My FH is very money focused, he is always trying to make sure everything costs as little as possible. So, we set a hard budget and he's not allowed to worry about the cost as long as I stay in the budget. He still tries to worry about the cost but I showed him that we're almost done and I'm still $1200 under so he needs to zip it. lol

But seriously, just set a budget and give him updates. Hopefully that will help.

View Quoted Comment Yes we did set a budget of $15k. And I have tons of quotes from what vendors we needed. There are a lot we got a deal with by using friends. For example our florist went to high school with my FH and all our the flowers for our for under $1,100.

We've definitely had our arguments about the wedding and the cost of things. I've tried to find the most affordable options and do everything myself because it was my idea to have a wedding. My FH just wanted us to elope but I really wanted a wedding so I knew I'd have to do all the planning and budgeting. But he is helping out thank goodness!

Even though I knew that the cost of weddings was much higher than we planned on spending I still even had sticker shock and was trying to be frugal. FH and I have agreed to a budget and we decide on spending together since he is covering a lot of the bills for it. I think as long as you are showing it’s under/within budget he will come around. If you have friends who’ve been married, you can could have them tell you fiancé about the costs and how you are staying in a good budget. The sticker shock is real for sure. I’m worried about the cost of food and alcohol the most since we haven’t reached that cost yet and it’s going to be the biggest cost out of everything.

I have to agree with everyone else, did you guys agree to a budget? What really matters is the marriage, not the wedding. Even though every little girl dreams of their wedding day, the marriage is what is most important. I fiancé and I are keeping ours cheap, because 1) we can’t afford a big white wedding. I was upset at first, but then I realized, I’m marrying the love of my life, so it shouldn’t matter all that much. Hope it helps! Best of luck to you and your hunny

That's me not FH lol he wants to gk all out and I'm here... Looking for cheap stuff and sales all the time!

Only thing my fiancé mentioned that was too pricey is our Photographer. Then again, these are the pictures we will look back on for the REST OF OUR LIVES! So of course they are very important to the both of us. We will be having her for 9 hours, she will also have a second shooter with her the entire day, and we will be paying her $2,250. She’s a good friend of mine and I also have to respect her business. And yes she’s a professional!

We decided on a budget ahead of time and then met with every vendor together. This way, every major financial decision was based on a joint effort. I was definitely very budget conscious from the start, so I was definitely only reaching out to vendors that I thought would be in our price range.

No we are honestly both trying to spend as little as possible. All our flowers are at 380z. venue offered CP we liked for 250. The. We got my bouquet, BM bouquet for 10each the Grooms women will carry a single rose.him all parents and readers get a boutonnières. For my dads and sisters step kids and sisters step husband we are doing coursage for girls boutonnières for boys. Those ones do not look great but we wanted to do something special

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We have a 15K budget and I have everything budgeted out. I also know when things go on sale like MInted has a good black Friday sale last year so I'm waiting to purchase our save the dates and wedding invitations then. also using Ebates and RetailMeNot for online purchase. my budget for my dress including alterations is 2K but I'm hoping to be way below that too. what mt FH isn't understanding is things like hair and make up I have to give them the total amount of people getting services done then they send me a contract with the total amount due at the time of service. he doesn't see that my Bridal party will pay me there share of hair and make up. or he doesn't understand why a photographer cost the amount it does. he was trying to have me get some joe smoe for under 1,000. not happening.

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I am the one paying for it too and I have has some help with somethings for example my MIL is paying for the cake and my aunt donna paid for my flight back home to go dress shopping this September that's about $900 saved to go towards other things. also our flowers cot us half of what we where expecting so more money saved. we are using a lot of our friends small business to help for our wedding so they are all giving us some form of a discount.