Fiance is stressing me out!

The zazzle deal was 60% off and we talked to them and they're willing to give us 50% off, which is still good but we'd pay an extra 90ish bucks!

I take over. It's a personality trait, and as with all of them there are good sides and negative sides. DH is a procrastinator so I've learned to work with it. I tell him things are due a week before they actually are etc, but most of time I just do it. I'm happy, he's happy.

What is Khmer...

I just give my fiance deadlines. Someone else had given me that advice and I've learned that it is pretty much what has to happen because they don't understand unless you TELL THEM.

I asked mine what parts of the wedding really mattered to him, and he picked: flowers, cake, food, and bar. So those were the things he became responsible for (assuming I trust his opinion and taste)

I run things by him and yeah there have been quite a few frustrations over not paying attention until things are too late, but overall, I just take care of the things I know he doesn't care about and check in here and there with what he's in charge of

Guys just don't see the point in planning nine months in advance. H can barely plan a week in advance. I handled all the big stuff and assigned him smaller tasks with deadlines closer to the big day.

FH is soooo laid back about eveeryything. My wedding is in about 6 weeks, and guess what? They still have no suits. But Im so tired of asking. But I tell you one thing, they better have them suits on 3/1/14. I have pratically planned this whhoollee wedding by myself!

He thinks we have "alot of time" left...yea ok.

Some men will never understand. My husband has to have our weekends all planned out, I don't get it. The only thing I asked him to do was get the final guest list for himself and his parents, it took him 10 months to do this. It was so frustrating, but I just came to the conclusion that it is what it is, I wouldn't get so worked up over it. I did all of the planning pretty much alone, I asked for his opinion on a few things but for the most part I just went with it.

I do a lot of things myself. I always ask whether or not he wants to be included in a specific task, and he tells me if he wants to join me. He was interested in things like the venue, photographer, catering, and cake tasting. He could care less about decor, invites, and the wedding website. LOL so, he picks and chooses what he wants to do. The guest list was like pulling teeth because he honestly didn't care that much, but I needed him to get his family and friends' info!! So now if I really need him to do something, I just tell him. He didn't care much about his attire, but I said we had to get it done. He just trusts me and comes when I ask him to.

Good luck and happy planning!

When we first started talking about wedding details he gave me a list of things he actually cares about.

now that our wedding is so tiny its come down to pretty much: pastor, lighting in the chapel, tux rental, his side of the guest list.

I always ask if he wants to be included in everything else and he lets me know one way or the other.

Only thing we've disagreed on so far is guest list and that problem resolved itself because the people he wanted to come are on a cruise that week!

@Erin and Jesse's Girl - Khmer is the language spoken by Cambodians (the official language of Cambodia).

Jessie's Girl and Erin, Khmer is the language of Cambodian/Khmer people. I'll be having a traditional Cambodian ceremony like this too: http://blog.purebylindsey.com/?p=2473

You ladies are right. If I leave everything up to him, I won't have much of a wedding. It's just that I'm so frustrated. I would plan everything but he's the one that wants to have the country rustic theme, wants the yellow and royal blue scheme, thinks my bridesmaid dresses are too sexy (it's one shouldered and knee length) and shows too much back. To which I told him to find the dress then, and then he says, "Oh, the girls are wearing it so you should find what's cute for them." Grr.

If it were up to me, I'd just go through a drive-thru chapel in Vegas. But that's not possible so I think I just need to step back and breathe a little bit. Thanks for listening to me and giving me your advice. I swear I'm usually not so negative but gosh darnit, the man tests my patience!

Most of the planning, research, and decision making - I do it. If you feel that your fiancé didn't handle the invites well, then why would you trust him with the rest of the wedding? I say take over and keep moving - that way things get done when YOU want them to be done. Before you make final decisions, let your FH what your plan is and if he gives the green light, then move forward.

Future Mrs. Russell, you're right. I think it's just at the moment I feel like I want HIM to see what it feels like to be planning these details. It's easy to critique someone's work after the fact that they did ALL the work, but why not help along the way? I just want him to be in my shoes. If you're not going to help with finding, planning, and what not, the least you can do is do things in a timely manner when you're asked to do it.

Ahh, I guess I'm not the only one with fiances who drag their feet.

You are not alone...I have to tell him 18 times to do something...and then people ask me questions and it looks like I don't know what's going on cause he didn't do it....and then it doesn't get done. annoying!

Chatti, you are not alone. I literally had to sit next to FH while he called his parents for addresses for the save the dates (which I used for my Christmas cards as well).

However, I do know that he at least pays attention because there have been times when someone asks about the wedding and I leave it to him to answer. However, he has NO IDEA on what's on our wedding registries (ha ha) and he hasn't looked at our wedding website (or even read my wedding blog!)