Fiance is being difficult

I can understand that it feels "too" uneven ... but just remember that it's really irrelevant how many people are on each side. Like, in the grand scheme of things, it's not going to matter how many people are on each side. And it's up to him to decide who he wants standing up with him; groomsmen don't have to come to pre-wedding parties or live nearby. It's entirely your fiance's call.

However, if you're having fights because of this issue, and he's being an asshole about it, then that's a different problem.

We actually have the same issue. Most of my friends live over 3k miles away and can't afford to fly in. I only had 3 girls in the area that I would want to be in my bridal party. FH had 9. I was very adamant that I didn't want a huge event and to have to keep up with all of these people. It makes it less fun, in my opinion, if I have to worry about this assortment of groomsmen and bridesmaids.

I honestly just had to have a heart-to-heart with him and explained how I felt about it.

Good luck!

I see your point, but at the same time... Our grooms don't ask for much in the wedding and we typically get to make all the major decisions to our liking. SO, if he feels so passionately about this (and it IS about him wanting his guys with him, not something silly) you should compromise.

I think it's important to let our guys know that it's heir wedding too and they can have a couple things their way too without us kicking and screaming.

At the end of the day, your wedding is just one moment in your life together. It's better to build a stronger marriage than have a "perfect" wedding, so maybe try to compromise a bit?

Good luck!

FH will have 6 groomsmen and I will only have 2 bridesmaids. I am totally fine with this and I do not care at all that they are disproportionate. I am also going to have my FSIL walk our baby niece down the aisle as the "flower girl" even though she will only be 2 at the time.

ALL FH cares about in this whole wedding is that his best buds are there, his grandmothers are included, and we get cake balls. He also had an opinion on the invitations for some reason, so I am leaving all that to him. Grooms typically do not say much about weddings, so whatever he says he has input on, I am going with whatever he wants.

I had a similar issue with me and FH's bridal party. I have moved MANY times in the last 5 years and have not held onto many friends because of it. FH has lived in the same area his entire life and has about a dozen "close friends". We ended up with 5 on each side and a category we lovingly call “Men with Jobs” which means we technically have 6 ushers… Their duties are everything from holding doors and handing out programs to carrying coolers on and off of our bus between ceremony and reception… to driving FH’s 1946 Chevy to our photo locations… to assisting with our grand entrance at the reception. Everyone is included and I get an even number of attendants on each side

I agree with the other ladies, an uneven number in the BP is not the end of the world. I would be more concerned with the lack of compromise from the FH. Sounds like it's his way or the highway. Not a good sign at all.

Yes, you are over reacting. There are no rules on BP numbers & everything doesn't need to be matchy matchy. Pick your battle and let this one go. But I would be more concern about the statement "You sign up for this". He would need to elaborate & explain what he meant by that comment. Good luck

I get where you are coming from, but if they really are his closest friends, it should be his call. It is his wedding too. Please don't listen to Michelle. If you throw a tantrum like a 3 year old kicking and screaming then you probably aren't mature enough to be getting married. #Bridezillas