Fiance hates my dress choices

I agree with everyone else about finding/choosing something YOU love and owning your choice. If you feel good and are happy, you will look beautiful!

But I also think this is a good lesson to learn now: don't ask your spouse for an opinion if you don't want to hear their honest opinion. It's like that tired old joke comedians used to tell about women asking their husbands if something they have on "makes me look fat?", and it's really just a trap. If you care about his opinion and want to know, ask. If you don't want him to actually be honest, don't ask.

I think you look great in both!!

I do disagree with the bride's who think shouldn't care what he thinks though. Prior to us getting engaged, we've talked about potential wedding dresses I would wear and my fiancé told me the style he thought I would look best in. That's the only style I ever looked at or tried on. He will absolutely think you are beautiful no matter what and probably won't even notice what dress you're in! But at the end of the day, he's all that matters. I would kind of try to get a style of dress he likes. Of course, make sure you feel confident and beautiful but I would definitely want to make sure he really likes it too! Maybe I'm crazy? I think you'll look stunning no matter what!

Ugh I so relate to this. My fiance made an off the cuff remark about how he doesn't like certain dresses in another context. And he basically described my dress (though it looked nothing like the dress he was referring to). He swears he thinks I will look great in my dress, but it made me question my decision. I've been wondering how much I can alter it and have been pretty stressed about it.

So, I totally relate to this and if I had known he didn't like this style, I might have chosen differently. At the end of the day, I want to love my dress, but I also really want him to think I look my most beautiful on our wedding day. So, I probably would keep looking. That said, I fell in love with my dress and think he will like the way I look in the dress, even if he doesn't love the dress itself. So if you love yours, maybe it's the one. Though, as another poster said, since it's so early in your search, I'd keep looking so you can compare it to other dresses.

Wear a dress you love.

I'm assuming you showed your FH photos of the dresses online - catalog images - and not photos of you in the dress? If so, you should know that you being in the dress, and having it custom tailored to your body, and actually moving in the dress and it not just being a static photo, will totally change the way it looks and how he feels about it.

I showed my husband different styles of dress - none of them the exact dresses I was actually considering - but I wanted to get an idea of how he felt about different silhouettes, colors, materials, etc so I had an idea of his tastes. The dress was always going to be MY choice - I wasn't going to let his preferences force me in a direction I didn't want to go - but when I was 50/50 about something, if I knew he had a preference it helped guide me towards making a decision. For example, I liked both fit-and-flare and a-line dresses, but when I knew he really liked silhouettes that highlighted my curves and showed off my butt, I went with something more fitted through the hips.

Also lace really does look totally different when fitted on your body vs having a sample dress pinned in the back with excess draping fabric. I'm pretty sure your fiance will think you look stunning on your wedding day and you looking like you are wearing a table cloth will not even enter his mind. I'll also throw out there that lace is WAY more forgiving of hiding undergarments and little "flaws" than a fabric like crepe or satin. I was torn between a really chic modern crepe dress in a simple silhouette or a fit-and-flare lace dress with a long train and illusion lace bodice, and I went with the more elaborate lace dress and think it was definitely the right decision. I love the crepe look but EVERYTHING shows!

It's your dress, therefore, you alone should love it. One thing I love about my fiancee is that when he saw me try on a few dresses, he was always like, "You'll look beautiful in anything, so any dress you choose is fine with me"

You're not the minority. I agree with you. I think she looks beautiful but these dresses and the veil are drowning her. I do costumes and fashion for a living and this is one of those instances where the dress is, unfortunately, wearing you, Jen. We can't see your lovely figure and there is no break up of the lace. I LOVE lace as well and have it on my wedding dress and you should definitely NOT listen to your fiance as this is a phone pic, with bad store lighting and this dress is not altered to fit you I assume. I think you can find a dress that you will both love. I showed my fiance the ones I was considering but I didn't show him the one I loved and got. I agree with Whirlwind that you should shop around some more.

Adding to the minority here.

I think you should definitely choose a dress you love, but you should also ask his input and be open to compromise. Do not show him the dress you finally choose, but try to get something that he would love to see on you. If he's not a fan of these dresses on you, which I'm honestly not either, be open to something different. Maybe a lace dress with less floral and more abstract shapes. These dresses are swallowing you... it's a sea of floral and white.

My fiance loves me in lace. I didn't have to ask what he'd prefer. I like lace, but not flowers, so I'm looking for a geometric lace print dress, that way we're both happy. We're starting our lives together and I always wanna be appealing in his eyes, so the wedding dress is the perfect way to show it.