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Fiancé fmil

Anan, on August 23, 2019 at 8:20 AM Posted in Planning 0 10
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Fiancé FMIL threw a fit that she was uninvited to my bachelorette weekend at the beach. I just found out after all that drama that she had actually told my mom on 3 different occasions that she wasn’t going to be able to come. My fiancé didn’t know this either but at one point he brought up that his dad kept asking if we could invite her to come because she would be all alone at the house because my fiancé was also having his bachelor weekend the same as mine. I told him no way because knowing how it had been all I have seen is drama coming from
her and that I didn’t want that type of energy present at my bachelorette weekend. Neither did my mom so why she going to throw a fit given all the facts? Is this just how she is constantly seeking attention?


  • Amber
    Super May 2020
    Amber ·

    She kinda sounds like she's acting the same way my FMIL has been lately, just acting like the whole world revolves around her. My FMIL and I have had a great relationship up until we got engaged and all of a sudden she's just been really snippy about all the wedding things. Don't let her rain on your parade, it sounds like she would really put a damper on your bachelorette weekend if she were to tag along. I would consider having a conversation with her alone about the way she's been acting, or if you don't feel comfortable with that maybe FH can speak to her. I'm sorry you're having problems, but I hope you have an awesome bachelorette weekend!

  • LB
    Champion November 2016
    LB ·

    Um, I'm not surprised she's upset you uninvited her. That's pretty mean. What did she do to get uninvited. Just saying that she thought she couldn't make it isn't grounds to bar her from the event....

  • Caytlyn
    Champion November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
    She didn’t know if she could make it, so you uninvited her? I would be upset as well.
  • A
    Dedicated August 2019
    Anan ·
    Well I mean because she is all drama and negative and caused more problems. I didn’t even invite her and she asked me if she could come. Given there was other people around I felt pressured to telling her yes. I wasn’t intending on her coming so whatever
  • Sarah
    VIP September 2019
    Sarah ·
    Of course she’s mad. She’s “drama” but you’re the one who said yes and then uninvited her. Whatever drama came out of that is on you.
  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
    Chandra ·
    Your title confused me. Your fiance's FMIL is your mom. I think you just meant your FMIL.
    I'd be upset too if I got uninvited to something.
  • Cher Horowitz
    Rockstar December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·

    Unfortunately, you invited her when she pressured you to. I agree with PPs that FMIL is justified in pitching a fit because she was uninvited

  • Futuremrsmccormack
    Expert February 2020
    Futuremrsmccormack Online ·
    Just have her come. I'd be upset if I got uninvited, and she obviously wants to be part of your life, so I'd just suck it up. She's your FH mom, and will be yours, too. Families have drama, but I think you'll have a lifetime of increased drama if you force the issue.
  • Shanita
    Dedicated September 2020
    Shanita ·

    I don't blame you...if she is full of drama, why would you want her there. This is your time to enjoy and it's not about her, it's about you! You are not contractually obligated to invite anyone anywhere! Harsh, but, it is what it is. This is a time for you to be unapologetically happy and any one trying to take away from that happiness is not welcome...

  • October2019
    Dedicated October 2019
    October2019 ·
    I would invite her try to work on the relationship now. I would also be upset if someone uninvited me to something depending on what it was it would also probably be the last time I dealt with that person.

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