FH's family members is not attending to the wedding. Not even parents.

^ I have nothing to add. That about sums it up.

How far away do is your wedding from them?

If the situation was the other way around, as in you had the wedding near his family, would your family be able to attend?

If it was the other way around would your family be able to attend if so I would have planned the wedding for near his family to make it easier on them to attend.

Have to say I agree with the others....

Have another reception there with just his family. A dinner somewhere so his family can celebrate too.

Their excuses are pretty legitimate for not coming. If your family is healthier, it should have been an option for your family to travel and host the wedding in his family's hometown.

I think their excuses are perfectly reasonable - with the exception of the brother

I had to plan my wedding near my in-laws and away from my family because FH's mom is terrified of flying and my parents are totally fine with it.

I also think OTW's suggestion is a good possibility.

The reason why we are having it at my town is because we cannot afford a big wedding and my fiance has a lot of family members. It will be more than 200 guests. And we cannot afford a big wedding. His mom said we will have to invite EVERYONE and there's no way of having something intimate like we want. Also I have connections to help me with the wedding. A close friend works at a nice restaurant, where we are doing the reception. It's more because of money issues.

^ ditto

Can't really blame the family, health problems are a legit excuse.

I think OTW said it best, you should do something small near his parents so they can be a part of something. I'm not saying move the wedding, but have a celebratory dinner or a bbq or something. Anything to include them, because health problems are really out of their control and I'm sure they want to be a part of this special time in their son's life.

FH's brother however should suck it up and come. I think you said you invited him with a friend, so I don't see why he would be that alone. This is his brother. If he has the option to bring anyone he wants then I don't see why he is worried about being alone. It's also not a big deal for him to try to befriend your family. Now if he can't afford the trip, that is another story.

I'm a little confused. You didn't want to have it in FH's town because you would have too many of his family members show up but now you're complaining that no one is showing up?

I understand due to health issues, they can't come. My grandmother cannot fly as well. I plan to fly down to her with my FH so they can meet before/after the wedding. Although physically she cannot be there and mentally is not there anymore, I want to do something with her.

Well, we had an engagement party with his family. Not everyone attended but they said that for the wedding, we do have to invite everyone which is a lot of people. It would be too costly for us. And I'm not expecting the whole family to show up but at least a few of them.

If they're not paying for the wedding, they have no say in who you invite so no, you do not HAVE the invite his whole family.

Plus you could have invited yours and FHs parents and siblings, done a JOP or small chapel wedding, then had a nice dinner afterward. YOU chose the wedding you wanted over your FH's family. Period.

I have a similar situation except my wedding is a destination wedding and his parents are not able to come due to health issues. This is your wedding. Period. Of course health issues are a valid reason not to come. The brother issue just sounds like a poor excuse. That is his brother and regardless of if he had someone to come with or not, he should be there for his brother if he agreed to it originally. I know that my DF feels bad that he will have no family at the wedding but before we made the decision we had a discussion and we talked to the people we wanted there the most. unfortunately after all is said and done, you and DF are the ones getting married and you have to do what is most feasable for your life. And you cannot allow other people to tell you what you should have done.

I'm sorry but I cannot imagine ever planning a wedding knowing that my husbands family couldn't come. It's not just about you. If you think he won't resent you in the future, you're wrong. He may not be saying it now, but I'm sure it's important to him that his parents be there. Cancel what you've got planned and fly to where his parents are and get married at a courthouse and go to lunch. You didn't say your family can't travel. It's totally unreasonable to plan a wedding that excludes his own family just because it's what YOU want. If you're going to marry him you need to take his feelings and family into consideration.

I would talk to FH and see how he really feels. There must be a compromise that could be made so both families could be in attendance.

I have to say, if what really counts is their presence there for your FH then you would have had the wedding you could afford close enough for them to attend. I couldn't imagine my wedding without my parents as well as my Grandma! My gma is unable to travel so instead of my "dream" wedding somewhere overlooking the water, I'm having a hometown wedding so that I know she can attend. It just comes down to what's important to you.

I am having TWO WEDDING CEREMONIES - yes two complete ceremonies with a minister, photographer, flowers, cake, my dress etc. solely for my FH's grandmothers who are too sick and elderly to be driven an hour and a half to our venue. This in my opinion was a non issue - we were going to include them NO MATTER WHAT. Yes, it is going to cost us extra but I would rather pay and include them than not and say "too bad". I am going out of my way to accommodate my whole family for this wedding - it is not just about us brides.

I have to agree with the majority. You decided to have an intimate ceremony, and per you, you can't have an intimate ceremony with 200 people. This is not going to make his family like you at all.

The only family member I would have an issue with is your FH's brother. He doesn't want to be "lonely" at the wedding? It's not about him, it's about his brother. That's a pretty immature excuse, and not one I would take well (unless he has an extreme social anxiety disorder that causes him to have a genuine physical reaction if he is around strangers).

Even so, I would completely expect him to show up to the ceremony to support his brother, the groom. He should pose for photos, and spend some time at the reception. If, after 45 minutes of the reception, he finds himself sitting alone in the corner, he can go home or back to his hotel room.