Savvy January 2020

fh sister as bridesmaid

Amina, on August 22, 2019 at 1:05 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 8
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So I had asked my FH’s younger sister (20) to be a bridesmaid and a few days ago she texts me she doesn’t want to go on the bachelorette or be a bridesmaid any longer because of a fight she had with FH over money because she constantly gives her bf money when she doesn’t have it and expects FH to cover her and he’s tired of it. Especially after his week long bachelor trip in Cartegena and she asks for money 2 days later. She’s the type of person to be very vindictive so her reasoning of dropping out was to hurt him for hurting her, not realizing that I’m affected as well even tho I tried explaining to her. Would it just be easier to not have her as a BM to avoid all her drama and unreliability? I know she’s going to be family, but it’s my day too and I don’t want it ruined with her immaturity or her getting upset again and constantly trying to back out


  • Caytlyn
    Champion November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
    She doesn’t want to be a bridesmaid, you can’t really make her. Sounds like you’re better off anyway.
  • Sara
    Super October 2019
    Sara ·

    Agreed - it's awkward to cut someone out as a bridesmaid, but since she asked to drop out, I'd let her out, and not back in if she changes her mind.

  • Amber
    Super May 2020
    Amber ·

    Definitely doesn't sounds like she's worth having in the bridal party if she's already brought on all this drama and stress on you. It's pretty lucky that she's willingly dropping out on her own so you don't have to have that awkward conversation to kick her out. But don't worry, this one situation shouldn't keep you from being able to form a relationship with her in the future. She's young, her and your FH will eventually work things out (as siblings do), and everything will be okay

  • Jessica
    VIP June 2020
    Jessica ·

    She already said she doesn't want to be a bridesmaid so leave it at that. You cant make her do something she doesn't want to do.

  • Rachael
    Devoted October 2019
    Rachael ·

    Let her drop out. The way I see it, if she treats your FH this way, its only a matter of time before she tries to pull something on you. Have only girls that you know will fully support you, and not use their position in your wedding as any type of leverage for anything

  • Cher Horowitz
    Rockstar December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·

    I agree, let her drop out if that's what she wants. It sounds like she's in a somewhat tough position with her boyfriend, so she's probably very overwhelmed

  • Cristy
    Rockstar May 2020
    Cristy ·

    Let her quit. You don't need that kind of drama. It was really nice of you to ask her in the first place. Sounds like she's not quite grown up yet. You'll be much happier without having to deal with her.

  • D
    Super July 2020
    D ·
    Yes, let her drop! She did you a favor.

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