NextChapterReady
Super October 2019

fh Mortifying Moment ... Help Me Feel Better, What's Yours?

NextChapterReady, on May 24, 2019 at 8:44 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 21
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So my FH sometimes has a lack of understanding about why something is embarrassing or inappropriate and it nearly ALWAYS comes back on me LOL. We were at his uncle's wedding and at our table with my FMIL and FSIL. I told my FSIL I used her gift card she got me for a bride robe (it was a gift card from Victoria Secret, but FMIL did not know that). I thought it was innocent enough and wanted to let her know I appreciated her gift for my birthday. In reality I had used it also to get some lingerie for my boudoir shoot I did for my FH. My FH pipes up and says "Yeah and she got a lot of stuff for a boudoir shoot she's doing tomorrow!"

I tried to keep it together as my FMIL was like, "wait, what's that?" FH tried to answer but I cut him off and quickly said, oh it's like a photo shoot--like a bridal portrait! Thankfully FMIL was like "oh that's nice!" FSIL knew exactly what that was. Later on I told her she also got me some nice lingerie and that I couldn't believe he said that in front of his mother! She agreed horrified and we laughed it off. I let FH know on the way home to NEVER bring that up in front of FMIL again. (He still doesn't know "what he did wrong" ... sigh lol)

For the record, I suspect FMIL already thinks i'm on the slutty side as she took me shopping once and I overheard her telling the sales lady "she always shows so much skin! I just want to show her she can look pretty without showing that much skin!" FYI I'm Catholic and the only skin I've ever shown is a bit of cleavage (at the request of FH). She kept trying to put me in sweaters and shawls.

What does your FH do to mortify you? LOL

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  • Katherine
    Expert July 2019
    Katherine ·
    That does sound awkward! Did he think it was some typically wedding planning thing everyone knows about? Lol!
  • NextChapterReady
    Super October 2019
    NextChapterReady ·
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    Haha no, my mom is super open about stuff like that and he was like ... well you talk about that stuff with YOUR mom. LOL

  • Jo
    WeddingWire Administrator May 2015
    Jo ·

    I just want to to say how horrified I am that you had to hear your FMIL say that about you!! What is she doing talking about you behind your back like that?! I'm shocked and horrified.

  • NextChapterReady
    Super October 2019
    NextChapterReady ·
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    It's super weird, but I honestly don't think there was any malice behind that---like I think she would be totally okay with knowing I overheard her, because she doesn't think that's offensive? I tried to just laugh it off.

    It's like she just says whatever she thinks without realizing it can come across negatively! I would like to think she actually likes me as a person and just really wants to "help" me dress more conservatively. However, I'm 28 years old and I think I dress appropriately for my age, so I'll be sticking to what I like haha

  • Iva
    Super September 2019
    Iva ·
    Haha... I’d agree with your FH on this one, I don’t see anything wrong with it 😆 He was talking to his mom, who is a human lol (he chose to tell her, you were not the one telling her any details), you guys are getting married & everybody is adults (there were no kids present). I’m sure his mom saw plenty of lingerie models in her lifetime, in ads, stores, magazines. That’s pretty much what a boudoir photoshoot is 🤷🏻‍♀️ We sometimes tend to underestimate life that our parents have lived (60’s & 70’s were pretty wild times).
    I prefer healthy & open communication, so this wouldn’t faze me 😆 (obviously, nobody needs details about someone’s sex life or certain health issues etc. that would be TMI for me)
  • Jo
    WeddingWire Administrator May 2015
    Jo ·
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    Oh I'm sure she wants to be helpful and didn't mean it to be malicious at all, and I'm really glad you two have a pretty good relationship.


  • Mrsblair
    Dedicated May 2019
    Mrsblair ·
    He was probably so excited he didn’t think before he spoke haha!

    my husband sent an inappropriate meme to the family group text. Except it was the group my mom was in. Oops
  • Haley
    Devoted October 2020
    Haley ·

    That's funny and also I feel for you I'd be mortified of my FH said that in front of his grandparents (they're southern baptist and I didn't wear shorts or jeans in front of them for like 3 years.) My FH just has a bad habit of agreeing for us to do things and when I remind him we already have plans, he waits until the LAST second to call his dad (or whoever) and cancel and then it seems like I just didn't want to come. He is someone that just agrees to stuff or tells people what they want to hear in a way. So when his dad and stepmom ask to come back to our house after dinner, hes like yeah sure! Well I have laundry piled up on the dining room table from that morning and I haven't vacuumed in like a week (we have 3 cats and a dog) and I want to shoot him lasers out of my eyes like "helloooo our house is a WRECK we need to PLAN for your parents to come over......" And I always feel like I seem rude if I'm like "oh no lets go for ice cream or coffee instead!" like I don't want them over. So that's how he embarasses me or puts me in awkward positions and he doesn't seem to mind or notice.....You are not alone haha

  • NextChapterReady
    Super October 2019
    NextChapterReady ·
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    Lol well I try not to be sensitive to it ... but you never want to hear your FMIL basically say you're slutty so ... yeah I would have preferred to not overhear that!! Horrified was the right word for sure!

  • NextChapterReady
    Super October 2019
    NextChapterReady ·
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    If I didn't feel like FMIL kinda thought I was slutty for the way I dress, then I totally wouldn't care! Like I said, I'm a super open person and have no problems talking to my own mom or his sister about it. I think that might only reinforce FMIL opinon so I tried to veer away from that LOL

  • NextChapterReady
    Super October 2019
    NextChapterReady ·
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    Haha he always gets ahead of himself! And Oh no! How did your mom react??? LOL

  • NextChapterReady
    Super October 2019
    NextChapterReady ·
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    Haha yes, like if it was not a super conservative person I wouldn't have had a problem with it lol! And oh that's the WORST! My FH has done this a couple of times, but never with the parents. I have to do a DEEP cleaning before they visit and can't imagine! Haha that's pretty bad!

  • Iva
    Super September 2019
    Iva ·
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    Ah I see... But honestly, if FMIL thinks you’re slutty just because of the way you dress 😳 that’s kind of her problem & it’s on her. You can’t please everyone or apologize for who you are. And it’s not her job to “fix” you 😆 Obviously, your FH loves you just the way you are!
  • NextChapterReady
    Super October 2019
    NextChapterReady ·
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    Lol yes, I just try to politely decline recommendations and keep doing my own thing! If anything, my FH would prefer MORE skin LOL I'm 28 and I feel like I dress appropriately for my age haha

  • Iva
    Super September 2019
    Iva ·
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    Haha... good for you. As long as you & FH are happy!
  • Mrsblair
    Dedicated May 2019
    Mrsblair ·
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    My mom never responded haha. But my mother in law was like “that’s inappropriate” and then frantically texted us separately going “DID YOU KNOW KATIES MOM WAS IN THAT GROUP TEXT?!?”. In the end we just laughed.
  • Furture Mrs. G
    Expert September 2019
    Furture Mrs. G ·

    YIKES! Lol. I don't see why he would think that telling your FMIL AKA his mother that your doing a lingerie photo shoot is appropriate. My FH and I are Catholic too and his parents are realllly reserved... If he ever told them something like this they would freak. Hahaha But, honestly its a little funny! Awkward but, funny. Gotta love our men!

  • D
    Expert July 2020
    D Online ·
    My SO has had boundary issues in the past when it comes to over sharing private info.
    We were at a bar with friends and while I'm talking to one group of friends I hear her go into WAY TOO MUCH detail about an intimate moment. I turned around and as she's taking a shot of whiskey I say "you're not telling that story!" She starts laughing and snorts the shot causing it to come out her nose. It completely burned her sinuses and to this day, 12 years later, she can't drink whiskey straight. We still have a good chuckle about it. Served her right.
  • Terra
    Expert September 2020
    Terra ·

    That was painful to read, I would have been beet red!

    My FH had been requesting for forever that we play Cards Against Humanity with his fam. We've played it with mine more than once, but my family is much more outgoing and has much fewer boundaries, lol. I kept shying away from it, because his mother and I aren't on that level yet, but we did it just recently and it was hilarious and a pretty good way to bond. There were a couple cards we refused to read out loud, though.

  • Courtney
    Rockstar December 2019
    Courtney ·

    My FH does stuff like this all the time! He knows well enough to keep his mouth shut about personal topics but it's other things. Food in the beard, stains on the shirt, cutting people off in public areas, etc. I told his father that he owes me for re-training his son haha.

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