FH Makes a FB Post for People to RSVP!

My future husband told me to ask the venue "If we don't have wedding cake, can we get $5 off per person?" LOL WTF?! First of all, we a not that cheap and second of all, people want a little something sweet after dinner!

@JanelleNicole Haha Thanks!

I just don't get that rule. It's like you can't share anything great in your life because of hurt feelings.

"Oh I'm graduating from college!" Don't share that, because not everyone can come to your graduation! FFS!

@MrsPope I dont understand it either! I know plenty of people that post about their wedding on FB. I dont get offended that I wasnt invited, I actually enjoy seeing their planning, engagement & wedding pics!

There's a huge difference between posting about exciting times in your life (I'm engaged! I'm graduating college! I'm pregnant!) and posting about a wedding. It's the whole over-sharing thing. Think about it: would you walk into a room filled of everyone on your FB friends list and go "Hey guys! Make sure to RSVP by tomorrow!!" It's not just that not everyone is invited to the wedding. It's just... weird and out of place.

I guarantee you have at least one FB friend who does this and it annoys the crap out of you. If you don't, then most likely you're That Friend and you're annoying everyone else.

To each their own... if you want to post on FB go for it... if someone doesn't like what you posted then they have the option of removing you as a friend. As ADULTS, people should not get hurt feelings over not being invited. Everyone knows that weddings are expensive and there are guest list limits. I have a few friends on FB that have done that, doesn't bother me at all and I wasn't invited to those weddings. I actually felt bad that they were still waiting for RSVPs.

What my FH did the other day that about made me DIE was we were in the car and he got a call from his mom. I'm not even sure why she was involved in this issue, but anyway she wanted to know what color the tuxes were (since I had had him text his cousin/GM a few weeks ago asking if he had brown dress shoes). He asked why and when she said it was about the shoes he said they needed to be brown to match the "KHAKIS"!! Now, the guys aren't wearing tuxes but they are wearing very nice dark brown suits and I couldn't believe he referred to them as khakis! This especially freaked me out because his family has been known to show up to uber formal events in khakis and polos and I don't want his mom spreading the word that the freaking bridal party is wearing casual clothes or we'll have people there is jeans!! I smacked him and had him correct that they are brown dress pants/a brown suit but I still don't like that the word khakis was even mentioned. (His family and esp his mom are difficult.) I'm still super confused as to why the cousins shoes (keep in mind he is a married adult man with kids) is going through FHs mom but I guess at this point the best bet is to send a pic of the pants. I swear my dress was so easy but getting the BP dressed will be the death of me!

I laughed, even though I'm in full agreement that both are inappropriate posts. Yours is super passive aggressive and his is so blunt. LOL.

I would DIE if my FH posted that on facebook! I have NEVER mentioned our wedding on facebook. I don't want people who weren't invited to have to read about my planning. Unfortunately, I had a relative RSVP on my fb WALL! Didn't mail the card, just posted it for all of my non-invited family members to see! And the photographer who did my engagement shoot posted and tagged me in dozens of our engagement pics.

I effing give up.

^^^ 100% everything Lori said.

I have not posted a single thing about my engagement or wedding on Facebook. I did change my relationship status when we got engaged but didn't post pictures or even comment on it. We are having a smallish (75 or so people) wedding and I don't want to have to field questions about who is and is not invited.

Both posts are inappropriate.

I agree with MrsPope too! People need to grow up sometimes!

Hilarious!

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@Brit my wedding is 100% off Facebook. FH and I do not share anything personal on the site. I have a few pictures of me from years ago, but i only use FB to keep up with old friends. FH is not on FB

My wedding is 100% off facebook. My engagement was posted a few days after I got engaged, nothing since then. Lori's comparison is so spot-on as to why.

I think people use Facebook for different reasons. I know some people on my friends list post everything they do and everything that happens to them. Some use it to post how perfect their life is and some use it to have pity parties. It's how you use it and that of course is at the discretion of each user. But, in doing so, you need to be prepared for the concecuences, good or bad. As for my wedding, I don't see my post offending anyone, based on my friends list, and if it does....

I will agree that the OP's facebook post is hugely passive aggressive. Incredibly so. However, her FH's post I found brilliant. And if someone I knew on Facebook posted that I'd still laugh, whether I was invited to the wedding or not.

I don't quite understand the 'don't post about your wedding on facebook' rule/guideline. It doesn't make sense to me. Partly because if someone takes offense because they weren't invited it's just a reason to unfriend them. I don't have space in my life for people who are that childish.

However, I will say, I don't post much. Not because I'm worried about offending people, but because I just don't post much on Facebook in general. But for example, FH and I spent an age working on our seating chart today and arguing back and forth about where to seat a few people. So when we were done and I was faffing on the internet I put a status on facebook saying something along the lines of 'whoever invented the idea of seating charts is evil...' To my mind, completely innocent and fine.

But then, I also live across the other side of the world from my family, and my, admittedly rare, facebook posts are the only way I'm in communication for much of the time because of the time difference.

I think I'd find it more strange to know one of my facebook friends was getting married and not see a single post about it. But that is just me.

Whether it's a birthday party or a wedding, you don't talk about it in front of people who are not/were not invited. Basic etiquette learned in elementary school.