I think my FH is being cheap but right now, we have less than 40 people at our rehearsal dinner. In our wedding party, we have:
5 groomsmen + BM (2 have wives + 1 kid - one of the flower girls)
5 bridesmaids + (2 husband + baby)
2 sets parents, 1 set of grandparents, 1 grandma
2 pairs of Godparents (they're part of the wedding)
Flower girl + Ring bearer (brother + sister) with their parents
priest
His sister is NOT part of the ceremony but since his parents are hosting, she's most likely invited. At the beginning of the year, his mom asked me what my plans for rehearsal dinner are and I told her I wanted something low-key...even a bbq in our backyard but then she gave me a judgey look and said she wanted it catered. A month later, she used it against me and said that the groom's family hosts the rehearsal dinner, so I let her take control. She originally wanted to do it at a restaurant (that is a small, neighborhood restaurant...not very a special occasion at all) but FH & I told her it would be more cost-effective and appropriate to do it at a family style restaurant. NOW, he's looking at the list and is "outraged" and it's not even that bad. I'm all for saving money but at the same time, I'm more into the etiquette and principle. There are times when you are going to spend a little more to accommodate to your guests and this is one of the few times.
I'm thinking that maybe the flower girls/ring-bearer don't need to be there.... We're having a church ceremony, so our readers don't need to be there (they'll get a cue). Our Godparents are part of the procession so they have to be there....
HELP
