fh doesn’t want 1st dance

My FH is terrified of the first dance. I'm a dance instructor, and he's a tech nerd. He has anxiety about all eyes being on him the entire day, but especially for the 2 minutes we're on the dance floor. I've had my wedding song planned/choreographed for YEARS, but the reality is I'd rather give that up and create a memory that's special for the both of us rather than forcing him to learn my choreography. Some ideas I've thrown around to compromise:

1. Allow him to select the song for the dance and respect his decision. Even giving him a choice of 3 or 4 different songs helps narrow your choices down and then he gets the final say.

2. Since dancing in public is a huge no-no for him, I'd be willing to never ask him to dance with me again after the wedding. It'll be like our first and last dance as a married couple...haha! It's disappointing, but I openly dance with other people all the time and he doesn't mind.

3. Remind him that eyes will be on him the whole day, and those 2 minutes are nothing in comparison to the entire ceremony. Have him keep his eyes on you, so it won't even matter that others are watching.

4. Make it silly! We're considering "Shut Up and Dance" as our dance song, and be our goofy selves. That way he doesn't have to worry about his lack of rhythm.

5. Split the first dance with him and your parents/grandparents, as most people are suggesting.

I hope this is helpful!

My FH has SAD, too, but I was lucky enough for him to agree to do the first dance if we have something absolutely distracting to follow right after... so we're doing our first dance after our entrance and then it'll be followed by a Chinese Lion Dance.

Side story: he actually chose our first dance song which is Harvest Moon by Neil Young... THE LONGEST SONG EVER. Haha we'll probably shorten it but I thought this was pretty funny.