fh doesn’t seem interested in planning?!

Guys typically aren't interested in the planning process this is a discussion that appears on wedding wire allll the time. Im pulling teeth nails and hair to get fh to even go look at a venue im considering(would save 800) ask if theres anything thats super important in the day most likely will be food and music

You got engaged very recently and it's perfectly okay for him to want to take some time to take in the newly-engaged bliss before jumping into planning. I would have a chat with him about how long he would like to wait. Explain to him that it's important to book a venue as soon as possible, but that you will wait until he's more comfortable.

Some people just aren't into planning weddings. He probably thinks you have a whole year to decide what to do and doesn't want to think about it yet. Just explain to him that if you want a specific date, you should at least get a place booked. After that you can relax a bit until you're closer to your wedding day to worry about other things.

My FH isn't interested in the wedding planning and we are 6 months ahead. He made that clear since the beginning of the engaged for him the compromise is more important then the celebration. I have been making all the decisions of the wedding and he is fine with everything I choose. The fact that isn't interested in the wedding doesn't mean that isn't interested in our marriage. When a realized that I started to feel more comfortable and worried less.

Guys don't usually care. My FH only cares and inputs when it's something HE WANTS the rest of the time he just shrugs it off

Amen sistas! I can super relate. I love my man, obviously, but it's not always in there interest to plan a wedding. He straight up told me, when I walk down the aisle, he won't even see the flowers that I worked so hard to pick out, pay for, and DIY. He'll only see me. And that's just the truth. Some men, thankfully, only care about getting married, the rest is just fru fru to them. I know it's frustrating for us, since we pour blood sweat and tears into the event, but just show him choices and I'm sure he'll handle that one better.

Alright babe, pick a) or pick b)... Which one do you like better? My man responds well to that.

I sat FH down at dinner, just the two of us, and flat out asked him what he wanted, what mattered most to him. He said he wanted it to be casual and fun and he wants to wear jeans. The rest he told me to decide. 😚

But for important stuff like food I say “option a or option b”? It’s worked well so far. No arguing and I’m much less frustrated

As many said, men typically aren’t into weddings as much as they care about the budget and price. I would simply ask him what he’s interested in, what he wants the day to look like and move from there. You may have to employ your MOH or mom or a trusted friend to go venue shopping. Have what you want and ask him “yes” or “no” questions instead. Example: Do you like these colors? Etc. I hope this helps. It can get frustrating but most men don’t understand all that goes Into weddings.

My FH is not interested in planning either. I took my mom, sister & MOH to look at all the venues I wanted to see. It was a lot of fun going with girls! This way he didn’t have to go tons of places that weren’t even going to be considered. Then once I found the one I loved I made a second appointment to make sure he loved it. Which he did so we booked it. I am making most of the other decisions, which I am fine with, but wanted him to feel part of it. I know he loves music, so I put him in charge of dj music and he is actually engaging in this task!

Get used to it! My FH says “I only care that you’re there and we get married. That’s all that’s important”. He did go along to venues willingly and to meet with the big vendors. But now that we are down to small stuff, I just leave him home.
its more pleasant for both of us that way haha

Some guys assume that all women love planning weddings, and that it's just not a guy thing. I think you need to sit him down and point out that it's his wedding as well as yours, and that it's not going to plan itself, so he needs to take on half the work if it's to happen. Otherwise, this will be only the first of many things (housework, child care) that he'll figure he can get away with not doing.

Don’t force him. Plan with your girlfriends or family and then when you want to book something run it by him this way you take his opinion into consideration but don’t make yourself crazy trying to drag him all over with you

Most guys will do tasting and that is about it. sorry to say this is a lot of work and if my FW was here i would let her do it all and avoid the headache but tell him if he is tired and dont care you can make all the decisions cause you have excellent taste and don't worry he and his friends will look good in a too-too but the fact is you will do most the work yourself

At first my FH wasn’t very interested in planning, I was the one starting the venue search and catering search. Then I found the venue we actually ended up booking which is all inclusive (ceremony, reception, dj, bartender, flowers, wedding planner). I went and viewed it with my mom first because if I wasn’t happy then it wasn’t worth bringing him. We went, I loved it of course, scheduled a day to come back with FH, we set the date, upgraded flower and food package (his decision). I feel as long as I take leads to things and say I really like it then he just goes with it lol. Good luck, I know it can get frustrating with the other half isn’t cooperating 😂

My fiance is just as bad. He will be fine with something and then act like he didnt know we are doing that. For the most part, its option A or B. For example, I spent FOREVER trying to find invitations that would match the available website themes on knot. Didnt even match our wedding colors but I still liked it. When I asked his opinion, he wanted something really unique like a club flyer.....really? I even tried to find something to appease him but ended up sticking with what I picked. He is super into music and said he would handle everything but we are 6 weeks out and I'm freaking out because we dont have the list for the ceremony or the DJ. When we would brainstorm, he would drink and play rap/hip hop or would play really sappy love songs so no decisions made. I finally put him in front of a spreadsheet and told him to type our the ideas on his playlist and I'll add to it and place them in the right timeline. Ugh. I would be happy if he would stop buying expensive jewlrey "for the wedding" (destination) over and over. I lost it on him because he is so bad with money. He used to gamble but he cant stop shopping online and he has expensive tastes like a woman. You would be shocked and probably scold me if you knew how bad it was-like an entitled teenager who has a case of the 'i wanna"s. Its disheartening but most men are not into the fine details. Mine will probably be surprised and impressed on how everything turns out. He also gets very anxious around people and be afraid it wont go right so the less he knows the better. He wanted me to cancel a special guest performance by his Reggae idol for 30 min because it's a small destination wedding. Its 2k and I already paid for half and we added it to the invitations/website. Too late to cancel and I promised everyone will be dancing for at least that part. I still think he might freak out and tell me to cancel because of his anxiety. If you start pushing your man into planning be prepared to wish you hadn't because you wont always like his opinions. Then what? Sorry for venting on your post.

My FH has been more involved than most but it was like pulling teeth to get him to do anything at the beginning. I don’t think men understand that these things book up way in advance. We couldn’t do ANYTHING before making a guest list though and oh boy, was that NOT fun. Once I was able to explain we can’t pick a venue or anything before knowing a rough headcount he did sit down and hammer that out. I made the appointments for viewings on Saturday and Sunday’s since those are his off days and he just went along. We also made a list of his most important things and mine. We budgeted out for a wedding planner so I have someone to help me hammer out the idea he gives zero cares about. Like, I accidentally ordered white boutonnières and my flowers are ivory...will they clash? Instead of holding everything up for him I shot my wedding planner a quick picture. With all of that said if you feel comfortable waiting a month to let that “engagement haze” fade a little I would. I bought a few things and now am thinking, why did I do this? What was I thinking? Lol.

My FH hasn’t been apart of the wedding process and wants to be surprised. He hasn’t seen the venue, doesn’t know what the food or cake is, and only saw a photo of his suit since he wanted to pick the shade of blue. I have free reign to make all decisions and talk to my girls when I need input.

I got my fiance involved in the planning by giving him choices. Instead of sitting down and saying "we need to do invitations, let's start looking!" I would go online and look through the invitations and then say "here's 10 invitations I like. Which ones do you prefer?" And this way he suddenly went from not really having an opinion on anything to giving me some input on things.

Our venue was the funniest part. I found a handful of venues I liked and he wasn't thrilled with any of them so he's actually the one who researched and chose our venue for us!

Honestly most guys don't help with planning. My husband helped with some things, but things he didn't. For instance, a DJ sent us a DVD of his work and I watched it by myself in our bedroom because my husband said he trusted me to pick a good DJ, but in reality he just didn't want to help. However, he helped decide on the alcohol to have because I don't drink and he does and he wanted the alcohol at the wedding. He picked what he wanted to help with then the rest was up to me. My husband's brother got married six weeks after us and he did nothing to help plan their wedding so I was thankful my husband helped a little bit.